rucontent wrote:I have issues with letting things go in general. It is as if I dont feel right if I am not worrying about something. Intellectually I can see that i cannot really control the consequences of the test. I know that i have abstained for some time, I have taken tests that I pass. But it's the what if's that get me. I want to learn how to deal with that.
When the fear or anxiety occurs, first mindfully note that it is there and view it without judgment. Try and separate yourself from the emotion; think, "I am not nervous. Nervousness has simply arisen within me." With these steps - recognition, acceptance, investigation and non-identification - you can rob the emotion of its power.
It's of course a lot harder than it sounds but I really would recommend it as a healthy way to deal with feelings that, when unwatched, are likely to cause suffering.
Gain and loss, status and disgrace,
censure and praise, pleasure and pain:
these conditions among human beings are inconstant,
impermanent, subject to change.
Knowing this, the wise person, mindful,
ponders these changing conditions.
Desirable things don’t charm the mind,
undesirable ones bring no resistance.
His welcoming and rebelling are scattered,
gone to their end,
do not exist.
- Lokavipatti SuttaStuff I write about things.