My happy place

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Re: My happy place

Postby Mkoll » Fri Dec 27, 2013 5:47 pm

Taijitu wrote:What a nice Christmas present!

Well it is my first day without cigarettes. I've got a headache, something I never usually get.

Nice to see it is doing me some good already. :D

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Are you trying to quit? If so, kudos for making the effort! I think there are some forum members here who've gone down that path and I'm sure they'd be happy to give you advice.

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Re: My happy place

Postby Taijitu » Sat Dec 28, 2013 8:11 am

Mkoll wrote:
Taijitu wrote:What a nice Christmas present!

Well it is my first day without cigarettes. I've got a headache, something I never usually get.

Nice to see it is doing me some good already. :D

:yingyang:

Are you trying to quit? If so, kudos for making the effort! I think there are some forum members here who've gone down that path and I'm sure they'd be happy to give you advice.

:anjali:


Thanks.

My mother and sister wish me to quit so advice would be nice.

I went yesterday without a cigarette. Today I bought a packet and the first cigarette tasted awful. I tried a second one and it was a lot more pleasant.

So working on the basis that just one day makes the first taste awful I threw the packet away. I was going to give them to a friend but then wondered if that is really a friendly thing to do.

I am working on the basis that if I never buy them I will not smoke as I know very few people who smoke these days.

I remember learning that the nicotine is out of the system after only a few days so it should be pretty easy after that.

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Edit: It seems it takes a number of weeks at least to leave the system: http://www.med-health.net/How-Long-Does ... ystem.html
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Re: My happy place

Postby SarathW » Sat Dec 28, 2013 8:22 am

Hi TaiJitu
You Said:
I was going to give them to a friend but then wondered if that is really a friendly thing to do.

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I also have this problem. After I stop drinking I got lot of drinks left in my celler.
I gave some away but still not sure whether I am doing the right thing.
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Re: My happy place

Postby Taijitu » Sat Dec 28, 2013 8:35 am

SarathW wrote:Hi TaiJitu
You Said:
I was going to give them to a friend but then wondered if that is really a friendly thing to do.

===========
I also have this problem. After I stop drinking I got lot of drinks left in my celler.
I gave some away but still not sure whether I am doing the right thing.
:juggling:


It is an interesting dilemma. If we chose to quit because it has been bad for us maybe it would be bad for others.

Many people drink and even smoke with very few ill effects though. There are people who live to a very old age who drink. I think giving alcohol to someone you know to be an alcoholic would be wrong to my mind.

As with everything I think it is about balance. If our friends drink or smoke in a balanced way it probably will do them no harm. I find it easier to balance drink then smoking but I will be happy if I have no more then one of each a week or a month.

I am sure one bottle given to a responsible person will do no harm. In fact quite the opposite it will most likely only give pleasure.

I am going to go see if I can get the packet back so I can give it to a responsible friend, throwing away money is a waste.

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Drink: http://content.time.com/time/magazine/a ... 00,00.html
Smoking: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/artic ... habit.html

I guess it depends on what source you go to for information.
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Re: My happy place

Postby Taijitu » Mon Dec 30, 2013 8:52 am

Visited my friend in the hospital who's condition has gotten worse. It struck me that watching the suffering of others can almost dampen one's own spirit.

Luckily it just made me tired by the end of the night but even this tiredness is uncommon and may signify some slight imbalance.

This strikes me as something to be mindful about.

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Re: My happy place

Postby Aloka » Mon Dec 30, 2013 10:14 am

Hi taijitu,

If you like writing a regular account of your thoughts and activities, why don't you start your own blog at one of the free blogging sites like Wordpress or Google Blogger ? You could then have a link to it in your signature here.
With kind regards,

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Re: My happy place

Postby Taijitu » Mon Dec 30, 2013 10:18 am

Aloka wrote:Hi taijitu,

If you like writing a regular account of your thoughts and activities, why don't you start your own blog at one of the free blogging sites like Wordpress or Google Blogger ? You could then have a link to it in your signature here.
With kind regards,

Aloka :)


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Nope this thread is just for people to write about their happy place. My blog if I where to write it would be "Taijitu's happy place". :D

I doubt anyone would be interested in reading about my day to day life.

I just write here when I am happy and think to do so and read what makes other people happy.

It isn't taking up too much room is it?

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Re: My happy place

Postby Aloka » Mon Dec 30, 2013 10:45 am

Taijitu wrote:
It isn't taking up too much room is it?



Oh - I wasn't thinking about the space here - I just thought I was making a helpful suggestion. :console:

Anyway, hope you have a very happy 2014.


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Re: My happy place

Postby Taijitu » Mon Dec 30, 2013 11:34 am

Aloka wrote:
Taijitu wrote:
It isn't taking up too much room is it?



Oh - I wasn't thinking about the space here - I just thought I was making a helpful suggestion. :console:

Anyway, hope you have a very happy 2014.


:anjali:


Yes, any ideas are always helpful. :twothumbsup:

Hope you have a very happy new year also.

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(must find out what :anjali: means to people, all I know is it looks nice and means 'divine offering'.)
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Re: My happy place

Postby chownah » Mon Dec 30, 2013 3:11 pm

I just made a terrible post over in the why is the Buddha not humane thread.....totally counter productive....a lot of crossed construals there.......but I'm still in a Happy Place......and I still think that if the Buddha claimed to be not humane that we should believe him mostly.
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Re: My happy place

Postby kirk5a » Mon Dec 30, 2013 3:24 pm

Taijitu wrote:Hi everyone.

Just making this place to spread good karma and have it come back to me.

Feel free to talk about anything and everything happy or sad or just say hi.

Hi Taijitu

This verse makes me happy.

Whatever you're alert to,
above, below,
across, in between:
knowing it as a bond in the world,
don't create craving
for it to be or not to be

http://www.accesstoinsight.org/tipitaka ... .than.html

[my translation for the last line, I'm not sure if it could be justified by the Pali, but it does make me happy :smile: ]
"When one thing is practiced & pursued, ignorance is abandoned, clear knowing arises, the conceit 'I am' is abandoned, latent tendencies are uprooted, fetters are abandoned. Which one thing? Mindfulness immersed in the body." -AN 1.230
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Re: My happy place

Postby Taijitu » Mon Dec 30, 2013 3:33 pm

kirk5a wrote:
Taijitu wrote:Hi everyone.

Just making this place to spread good karma and have it come back to me.

Feel free to talk about anything and everything happy or sad or just say hi.

Hi Taijitu

This verse makes me happy.

Whatever you're alert to,
above, below,
across, in between:
knowing it as a bond in the world,
don't create craving
for it to be or not to be

http://www.accesstoinsight.org/tipitaka ... .than.html

[my translation for the last line, I'm not sure if it could be justified by the Pali, but it does make me happy :smile: ]


Interesting last line. For me it suggests happiness through acceptance. Thank you for sharing this.

Someone I consider to be a friend shared something on chat with me the other night:

http://www.gardendigest.com/zen/quotes.htm

They add to my happiness as they put in words what I feel but had difficulty expressing.
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Re: My happy place

Postby Taijitu » Mon Dec 30, 2013 3:41 pm

chownah wrote:I just made a terrible post over in the why is the Buddha not humane thread.....totally counter productive....a lot of crossed construals there.......but I'm still in a Happy Place......and I still think that if the Buddha claimed to be not humane that we should believe him mostly.
chownah


:shock: :D

I'll have to check it out and make an equally counter productive post!

Only joking! Only joking!
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Re: My happy place

Postby kirk5a » Mon Dec 30, 2013 3:47 pm

Taijitu wrote:
Interesting last line. For me it suggests happiness through acceptance. Thank you for sharing this.

Someone I consider to be a friend shared something on chat with me the other night:

http://www.gardendigest.com/zen/quotes.htm

They add to my happiness as they put in words what I feel but had difficulty expressing.

Ah, thanks to you in turn. Indeed, I laughed at this one, as I have had difficulty in expressing this very thing in other threads here.
It is too clear and so it is hard to see.
A dunce once searched for a fire with a
lighted lantern.
Had he known what fire was,
He could have cooked his rice much sooner.
"When one thing is practiced & pursued, ignorance is abandoned, clear knowing arises, the conceit 'I am' is abandoned, latent tendencies are uprooted, fetters are abandoned. Which one thing? Mindfulness immersed in the body." -AN 1.230
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Re: My happy place

Postby Taijitu » Mon Dec 30, 2013 4:13 pm

kirk5a wrote:
Taijitu wrote:
Interesting last line. For me it suggests happiness through acceptance. Thank you for sharing this.

Someone I consider to be a friend shared something on chat with me the other night:

http://www.gardendigest.com/zen/quotes.htm

They add to my happiness as they put in words what I feel but had difficulty expressing.

Ah, thanks to you in turn. Indeed, I laughed at this one, as I have had difficulty in expressing this very thing in other threads here.
It is too clear and so it is hard to see.
A dunce once searched for a fire with a
lighted lantern.
Had he known what fire was,
He could have cooked his rice much sooner.


Maybe it was an electric lantern. ;)
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Re: My happy place

Postby Taijitu » Wed Jan 01, 2014 9:51 am

Smoking was my last vice. I feel too virtuous without it.

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Re: My happy place

Postby Taijitu » Wed Jan 01, 2014 12:07 pm

Just had a very enjoyable walk down to the local pond. Almost every adult had a child with them. The children ran up to say good morning while we adults wished each other a happy new year.

Happy New Year Everyone!

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Re: My happy place

Postby Taijitu » Thu Jan 02, 2014 6:12 pm

A close friend just drew my picture. Only took her an hour. :smile:

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Re: My happy place

Postby Taijitu » Sat Jan 04, 2014 1:21 pm

I've been considering how it is important to keep past suffering to mind in order to empathise with others and not feel pity.

A song came to me to remind me of this importance:

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Re: My happy place

Postby sattva » Mon Jan 06, 2014 8:47 am

I went to my niece's wedding on Saturday. It really was quite beautiful and moving. Got to spend some time with my son and also with family who came in from Oregon. One who is 35, I haven't seen since she was just starting to walk! It's been a good visit. I am going to try to upload 2 photos of me. I did crop people out of the photos because one of the people didn't want to be tagged because of her job. That is oxygen tubing on my face. My one sister visiting from Oregon says that it looks like a moustache!
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