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Stay in or leave difficult work situation? - Dhamma Wheel

Stay in or leave difficult work situation?

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LinLin64
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Stay in or leave difficult work situation?

Postby LinLin64 » Wed Feb 19, 2014 9:53 pm

Hi,
How do you decide if a difficult situation is 'good practice' and worth staying engaged with, versus being something to leave?

I'm working with non-Buddhists who have very different ethical yardsticks in terms of honesty, respect, kindness, and keeping to agreements. Some of the people frequently use anger when communicating. I can deal with it but I don't like it and am tired of dealing with it.

I am quite free to leave and am very close to doing so. The only thing stopping me is wondering if I should stay because it affords an opportunity for facing and learning from difficult situations. Frankly, I am exhausted by a long time already of doing so.

How do you decide whether to stay or leave difficult situations?

Thanks in advance.

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daverupa
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Re: Stay in or leave difficult work situation?

Postby daverupa » Wed Feb 19, 2014 10:08 pm

There are two variables to assess: ease of attaining requisites (so, paying bills and so on) and ease of engaging bhavana (seated meditation, daily mindfulness, and so on).

discusses this. For monastics, they've gone forth not for the sake of requisites but for the sake of bhavana, and so in a case of easy requisites and difficult peace of mind, they are advised to depart that environment.

So you can weigh access to requisites & bhavana in your own case, and thereby determine your priorities with careful consideration. No one lifts all the weights at the gym on the first day; careful practice builds the ability to skillfully deal with heavy issues such as yours, but prior to developing this strength it may perhaps be the better part of valor to withdraw...

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LinLin64
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Re: Stay in or leave difficult work situation?

Postby LinLin64 » Wed Feb 19, 2014 10:22 pm


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Re: Stay in or leave difficult work situation?

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LinLin64
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Re: Stay in or leave difficult work situation?

Postby LinLin64 » Wed Feb 19, 2014 10:48 pm

The Dhamma and Dhamma practice have been and continue to be my lifeboat over the past months. And yes, I am looking for other opportunities where there a strong and demonstrated commitment to ethical conduct.

This has been a fascinating journey in learning that a shared understanding of and commitment to sila is foundational. The end does not justify the means.


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