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We're going through changes...

Postby Mawkish1983 » Sun May 18, 2014 6:21 am


Here's a situation update. My wife and I moved from Manchester to Southend-on-Sea. I'm still working in a prestigious selective boys' school, just a different one. I've also received several promotions over the course of the year and my career looks set to continue to progress rapidly.

I've bean practising Buddhism for over six years now. My practice is far from perfect, by progress is progress. The difference is now I can be open about it. My family have accepted my choice.

The biggest change is that I am now a father. My daughter was born last night and weighs 33 newtons. My wife had no pain medication, and the birth was natural. She did very well indeed. The baby and my wife are both fine.

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We were told years ago that my wife would be unable to have children. Looks like even medical diagnoses are impermanent.

At this moment, I'm very happy and content. Although I'm not an active contributor to this community anymore, I thought it would be news some of you might like to hear.


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Re: We're going through changes...

Postby sattva » Sun May 18, 2014 6:30 am

It is always nice to hear good news. Congratulations, Mawkish1983!

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Postby Modus.Ponens » Sun May 18, 2014 7:27 am

Congratulations! :smile:
He turns his mind away from those phenomena, and having done so, inclines his mind to the property of deathlessness: 'This is peace, this is exquisite — the resolution of all fabrications; the relinquishment of all acquisitions; the ending of craving; dispassion; cessation; Unbinding.'
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Postby Mr Man » Sun May 18, 2014 7:40 am

Congratulations. Having kids was wonderful and enriching in my experience.

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Postby Kim OHara » Sun May 18, 2014 7:42 am

sattva wrote:It is always nice to hear good news. Congratulations, Mawkish1983!

+ 1
and it's always good to hear from people we used to know but haven't seen for a while - and that includes people we've only 'known' online.

Be well, be happy and enjoy the changes in your life.


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Postby cooran » Sun May 18, 2014 7:42 am

Congratulations to you both!

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Postby TheNoBSBuddhist » Sun May 18, 2014 8:37 am

Blessings upon you, your wife, your child and your lives together.

One thing is for sure : Life will never be the same again....


You will not be punished FOR your 'emotions'; you will be punished BY your 'emotions'.


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‘Absit invidia verbo’ - may ill-will be absent from the word. And mindful of that, if I don't respond, this may be why....

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Postby robdog » Sun May 18, 2014 9:21 am

Congratulations on your new arrival :twothumbsup:

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Postby mikenz66 » Sun May 18, 2014 9:49 am

Great to hear from you!

Take care...


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Postby appicchato » Sun May 18, 2014 9:53 am

It is always nice to hear good news. Congratulations, Mawkish1983!


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Postby Ben » Sun May 18, 2014 9:58 am

Congratulations Mawk to you and your wife!
Mudita and metta to you and your family!
And thank you for sharing your great news.
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Re: We're going through changes...

Postby bodom » Sun May 18, 2014 1:28 pm

Congrats Mawkish!!

The heart of the path is SO simple. No need for long explanations. Give up clinging to love and hate, just rest with things as they are. That is all I do in my own practice. Do not try to become anything. Do not make yourself into anything. Do not be a meditator. Do not become enlightened. When you sit, let it be. When you walk, let it be. Grasp at nothing. Resist nothing. Of course, there are dozens of meditation techniques to develop samadhi and many kinds of vipassana. But it all comes back to this - just let it all be. Step over here where it is cool, out of the battle. - Ajahn Chah

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Postby Dan74 » Sun May 18, 2014 1:29 pm

Congratulations, Mawkish!

Children tend to throw a spanner into many things at once, and if we cope with that it is a good thing. Ours have been and continue to be my greatest living Dhamma teachers.

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Postby Virgo » Sun May 18, 2014 3:39 pm

Glad to her it Mawkish!



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Re: We're going through changes...

Postby culaavuso » Sun May 18, 2014 7:20 pm


AN 3.48: Pabbata Sutta wrote:Like a mountain of rock
in the wilderness, in a mighty grove,
dependent on which there prosper
lords of the forest, great trees —
in the same way,
those who here live dependent on
a clansman of conviction
— consummate in virtue —
wife & children,
friends, dependents, & kin.

Seeing the virtue of that virtuous one,
his liberality & good conduct,
those who are perceptive
follow suit.
Having, here in this world,
followed the Dhamma,
the path to a good destination,
they delight in the world of the devas,
enjoying the pleasures they desire.

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Re: We're going through changes...

Postby Khalil Bodhi » Sun May 18, 2014 10:30 pm

Congratulations Mawkish! All the best to you and yours!
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Re: We're going through changes...

Postby retrofuturist » Sun May 18, 2014 11:48 pm

Greetings Keith,

Excellent news ~ great to hear from you.

Retro. :)
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Whatever various forms of unease there are in the world, They originate founded in encumbering accumulation. (Pārāyanavagga)

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One who is such, calmed and ever mindful, He has no sorrows! -- Udana IV, 7

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