Do you have any regret that you struggle to let go?

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Do you have any regret that you struggle to let go?

Postby Dugu » Tue Nov 03, 2009 7:14 am

For me, my only regret that I struggle with involves a special girl I met a little over 4 yrs ago. She and I met during a time when my life was in turmoil, so I never took the opportunity to go out with her. Since then I have not met another that gave me a deep connection that I had with her. I since moved away and she probably did as well, which means I will never see her again. I tried to let this go but sometimes I my mind would wonder how she is doing. I know it is foolish to hold unto something like this but it is a regret that I struggle to let go. :cry:
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Re: Do you have any regret that you struggle to let go?

Postby Ben » Tue Nov 03, 2009 7:29 am

Love is the mother of misery, Dugu.
I hope the memory becomes a prescient reminder of the danger in attachment.
And yes, there are some things that I struggle to let go of as well.
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Re: Do you have any regret that you struggle to let go?

Postby pink_trike » Tue Nov 03, 2009 7:57 am

Not any more...I giggle when I catch glimpses of "hanging on". Hanging on to what...another dust bunny in my head! :tongue:
Vision is Mind
Mind is Empty
Emptiness is Clear Light
Clear Light is Union
Union is Great Bliss

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Re: Do you have any regret that you struggle to let go?

Postby Guy » Tue Nov 03, 2009 8:13 am

Hi Dugu,

"There is nothing worth having or being."
...I can't remember who said this (possibly Ajahn Buddhadasa), but I have found it to be very useful advice.

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Four types of letting go:

1) Giving; expecting nothing back in return
2) Throwing things away
3) Contentment; wanting to be here, not wanting to be anywhere else
4) "Teflon Mind"; having a mind which doesn't accumulate things

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Re: Do you have any regret that you struggle to let go?

Postby Individual » Tue Nov 03, 2009 10:35 am

It's hard to say. Probably, but none that I'm consciously aware of at the moment.

It's obviously dumb to have regrets, but they're hard to let go of.
The best things in life aren't things.

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Re: Do you have any regret that you struggle to let go?

Postby Guy » Tue Nov 03, 2009 11:15 am

Hi Dugu,

Another quote for you...
"If you let go a little you will have a little peace, if you let go a lot you will have a lot of peace, if you let go completely you will have complete peace and freedom." - Ajahn Chah

With Metta,

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Four types of letting go:

1) Giving; expecting nothing back in return
2) Throwing things away
3) Contentment; wanting to be here, not wanting to be anywhere else
4) "Teflon Mind"; having a mind which doesn't accumulate things

- Ajahn Brahm
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Re: Do you have any regret that you struggle to let go?

Postby Dugu » Wed Nov 04, 2009 1:51 am

Guy wrote:Hi Dugu,

Another quote for you...
"If you let go a little you will have a little peace, if you let go a lot you will have a lot of peace, if you let go completely you will have complete peace and freedom." - Ajahn Chah

With Metta,

Guy


Yea, I can see the truth in that quote.
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