Thanks for sharing this, Bikkhu.
To put some flesh on the bones of this thread.
I said to a fellow Buddhist, who often harshly critisises some others:
"You have a strong agenda..[he does].. can you understand that, from here
, it looks like you're being a little
attached to this? Not that I don't have my own attachments!"
My intention was to help this person realize he is being, a little, attached. (Always imo!)
I wanted to help him to relax about a certain situation in which he felt he was wronged. To let go of the past, and to help him stop being so angry. He is on warpath with some folks.
It caused this person to send me an outraged, offensive PM.
So, was it unskillful of me?
I accept your judgement and will try to learn from it.