To be honest, all the "friends" on my Yahoo Messenger, there's only one I generally ever initiate contact with. Sometimes, even these "friends" don't treat me in the most friendliest manner. If they're having a bad day, sometimes I'm the one it gets taken out on. But generally that's only *if* I initiate the contact. Now, of course, I'm no prince. I have my own issues I'm dealing with. But I try to treat others as I would like to have them treat me. That's the usual way of saying it. I usually just say, "I try not to do things to other people I wouldn't want done to my own person". Same thing, just a different way of saying it. Obviously, I fall short on this at times.
As far as what I'm looking for in a romantic relationship, I'm beginning to think maybe I don't want one as bad as I thought I did. It seems like they all at least drink socially, and most of them have at least one child. My last girlfriend had one child, plus she was pregnant. In the beginning, I thought I could handle it. But then, after awhile, it occured to me that I could not handle two children, especially an infant. So, I did what I thought was fair to the children, and broke up with her. Maybe that's not really fair to her, but the children come as a packaged deal. I'm just not ready to be a father figure yet. Like I said, I have my own issues to deal with right now, before taking on someone else's. It's just too bad I couldn't have realized this sooner. I think I need to just take a break from looking for a girlfriend, and focus on my own stuff. Of course, I wasn't looking for one night stands, but a true, long term, monogamous relationship.
I would greatly appreciate anyone contacting me on Yahoo Messenger to talk, just as long as it's not out of pity, but out of genuine interest in being friends.