Don't grieve

[greggorious]

I was watching a youtube clip of a Monk, can't remember his name Yattumundo or something? An American Thai forest monk. He mentioned that it was wrong to grieve when a loved one dies. Now I hate to take issue with a monk, but surely grieving is natural and that if you force yourself not to grieve you'll only suppress it and it'll be even more unhealthy.
I think to be able to grieve the death of a parent or child is necessary.

[LonesomeYogurt]

I was watching a youtube clip of a Monk, can't remember his name Yattumundo or something? An American Thai forest monk. He mentioned that it was wrong to grieve when a loved one dies. Now I hate to take issue with a monk, but surely grieving is natural and that if you force yourself not to grieve you'll only suppress it and it'll be even more unhealthy.
I think to be able to grieve the death of a parent or child is necessary.

There's a difference between repressing grief - which is bad - and not indulging in grief. Being mindful of death, free from clinging, and confident in the laws of kamma, we can know that the death of a loved one is nothing to grieve over but instead just a natural part of life.

If you want to grieve, if you feel as though you need to, then grieve. Buddhism is not about faking it! But what the monk was saying is that through the practice of compassion and the development of wisdom, we can get to a point where grief over someone's death no longer arises; until that point, please do deal with the grief that arises in a healthy and positive way. Don't ever think of repressing it.