Caught between normal life/ monk life

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Caught between normal life/ monk life

Postby Strive4Karuna » Sun Dec 30, 2012 10:06 am

I feel like I have no choice in my life but to become a monk or recluse and dedicate my entire life to meditation. I have suffered greatly in my life, have always wished for a normal life (get a job maybe have a family) but I don't think it is what I was born to do. I am 19 years old but feel younger. I am a little kid inside who suffers from strong anxieties and I'm afraid to leave my family in order to become a monk. Some of you might not understand what I mean about feeling like I have no choice in life but to become a monk or recluse but you just got to trust me on this without asking questions about why I feel that way. Pretty much growing up in Toronto, Canada, dressing the way other kids dress, listening to the same music etc., its hard for me to do a complete 180 in my life from becoming a city slicker to becoming a monk. What should I do?

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Re: Caught between normal life/ monk life

Postby Ben » Sun Dec 30, 2012 10:46 am

Greetings Strive4Karuna,
Attend some residential retreats and get established in Dhamma practice in daily life as a lay person first. If after some years of life as a lay person you are still interested in ordaning, then go for it.
with metta,

Ben
“No lists of things to be done. The day providential to itself. The hour. There is no later. This is later. All things of grace and beauty such that one holds them to one's heart have a common provenance in pain. Their birth in grief and ashes.”
- Cormac McCarthy, The Road

Learn this from the waters:
in mountain clefts and chasms,
loud gush the streamlets,
but great rivers flow silently.
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Re: Caught between normal life/ monk life

Postby Cittasanto » Sun Dec 30, 2012 11:42 am



He who knows only his own side of the case knows little of that. His reasons may be good, and no one may have been able to refute them.
But if he is equally unable to refute the reasons on the opposite side, if he does not so much as know what they are, he has no ground for preferring either opinion …
...
He must be able to hear them from persons who actually believe them … he must know them in their most plausible and persuasive form.

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Re: Caught between normal life/ monk life

Postby Khalil Bodhi » Sun Dec 30, 2012 1:21 pm

To avoid all evil, to cultivate good, and to cleanse one's mind — this is the teaching of the Buddhas.
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Re: Caught between normal life/ monk life

Postby Yana » Sun Dec 30, 2012 2:00 pm

Life is preparing for Death

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Re: Caught between normal life/ monk life

Postby daverupa » Sun Dec 30, 2012 3:08 pm

Don't take student loans or buy a car. Work and earn money to attend school if you like, but try to avoid long financial commitments because those can take choices away. Don't have children, or engage in activities which lead to them, for the same reason. Don't start smoking, ditto.

Then, you can relax and find your bliss without a rush.

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Re: Caught between normal life/ monk life

Postby Chi » Fri Jan 04, 2013 5:27 am

Do Good, Avoid Evil, Purify the Mind.

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Re: Caught between normal life/ monk life

Postby Ben » Fri Jan 04, 2013 6:08 am

oh lord, I think I've created a monster!!!!
“No lists of things to be done. The day providential to itself. The hour. There is no later. This is later. All things of grace and beauty such that one holds them to one's heart have a common provenance in pain. Their birth in grief and ashes.”
- Cormac McCarthy, The Road

Learn this from the waters:
in mountain clefts and chasms,
loud gush the streamlets,
but great rivers flow silently.
- Sutta Nipata 3.725

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Re: Caught between normal life/ monk life

Postby tanhakhaya » Fri Jan 04, 2013 5:04 pm

Here are some links to residential retreat offerings in the Toronto area:




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Re: Caught between normal life/ monk life

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