Am I doing it wrong?

[Peter]

Am I doing it wrong?

Seeing the title of the thread, I thought you were going to ask about your own practice. But it turns out you just want to slag other people's practice. So, yes, I'd say you are doing it wrong.

[Ben]

Hi Individual

just try to relax and be your(non)self!

Seriously...
Maintain your precepts, your meditation, dana and some parityatti and let nature take its course.
And you'll do just fine!
Metta

Ben