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numb to feelings?

Postby Babadhari » Sat Feb 15, 2014 7:15 pm

Aflame with the fire of passion, the fire of aversion, the fire of delusion.
Aflame, with birth, aging & death, with sorrows, lamentations, pains, distresses, & despairs ......

Seeing thus, the disciple of the Noble One grows disenchanted. SN 35.28

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Postby Babadhari » Sat Feb 15, 2014 8:55 pm

as part of the drug treatment programme i am told to cut all ties with ALL friends still using drugs as if they are bad people because of their behaviour..............
Aflame with the fire of passion, the fire of aversion, the fire of delusion.
Aflame, with birth, aging & death, with sorrows, lamentations, pains, distresses, & despairs ......

Seeing thus, the disciple of the Noble One grows disenchanted. SN 35.28

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Re: numb to feelings?

Postby chownah » Sun Feb 16, 2014 12:43 pm

kitztack,
Good feelings arise from conditions. I think that at the level you are presently dealing with you might do well to try to find what kinds of activities you enjoy.....I'll bet you can't think of any but maybe I am wrong about this. If you can think of something you enjoy doing (not drugs or sex) then do it and you will be in a situation where you might be able to discover what the good feelings are which makes you enjoy that activity. If you can not think of any activity which you enjoy then start thinking about possible activities you might enjoy and do some exploration by trying some of them....it might take a really long time to find an activity you enjoy if you don't have one....it took me years and years to find mine....and life was often pretty bleak while I was looking which is where equanimity comes in.
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Re: numb to feelings?

Postby Babadhari » Sun Feb 16, 2014 5:48 pm

thank you all for your replies

i think perhaps ive allowed myself to become emotionally detached and not focussing enough on compassion for myself as mentioned.
as advised by Chownah i'll try to allow more pleasant feelings by doing enjoyable activities. even my meditation posture has been pretty uncomfortable the past few months in the hope it would eventually relax
all work and no play is not the Middle Way.....
gratitude Culaavuso for showing the councellors advise is in accordance with the Suttas
Aflame with the fire of passion, the fire of aversion, the fire of delusion.
Aflame, with birth, aging & death, with sorrows, lamentations, pains, distresses, & despairs ......

Seeing thus, the disciple of the Noble One grows disenchanted. SN 35.28

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Re: numb to feelings?

Postby andyebarnes67 » Sun Feb 16, 2014 7:45 pm

I have little to add to the sound advice already offered but I would add a small suggestion.
Don't be too hard on yourself or expect too much of yourself.
In fact, scrub 'small'. As I think of it, I think this could be quite an important thing to offer a little advice from my own experience on.
I, some 20+ years ago also went through residential treatment for alcoholism along with ongoing support during and after.
Presuming you are happy with the counselling support you are receiving the direction of the treatment you are getting, please don't stray too far from this, even if at times it seems to contradict the dhamma r your practice.
your description of your practice sounds very much to me as if you are 'knocking on the door' of vipassana, albeit separating your observance of bodily sensation to when you aren't sitting. Be careful.
In your seeking for more awareness of your emotions, you could be opening up a faultline that, in terms of your addiction/s, could prove to be dangerous.
Take it easily and go slowly, please.
True meditative practice, particularly vipassana, is not a path to be trodden without wise guidance and care.
The vipassana course I attended a few years ago, for instance, wouldn't allow attendance by anyone with mental health issues as the experiences one might encounter can be pretty powerful, for anyone.
I'm not trying to discourage you in your practice, but suggesting caution.
Vipassana, on one level, can be seen as a purgative for the mind. to handle this, the mind most be strong enough. :namaste:
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Re: numb to feelings?

Postby Babadhari » Mon Feb 17, 2014 8:12 am

thank you andy for your advise
when my councellor asks me what it is i feel at a particular moment and i tell him 'a stinging sensation in my leg' thats not what he wants to hear. :tongue: now i practice a simple breath meditation
i would just like to be more aware of my mental feelings as opposed to seemingly being oblivious to them in an overly-detached way. i guess it takes time for thee damaging effects inflicted by drugs upon the mind to pass and once again feel something in my heart :heart:
Aflame with the fire of passion, the fire of aversion, the fire of delusion.
Aflame, with birth, aging & death, with sorrows, lamentations, pains, distresses, & despairs ......

Seeing thus, the disciple of the Noble One grows disenchanted. SN 35.28

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Re: numb to feelings?

Postby andyebarnes67 » Mon Feb 17, 2014 11:33 am

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