robertk wrote:You're right, only the missionary position for me from now on, plus any signs of pleasure from her , say little gasps, and I'll whip it out and threaten total abstention. That should do it.
Ah, but then maybe she'll leave you, and at last you'll be free to ordain! Great progress will have been made! And if she suffers because of the breakup -- well, the blame is on her for having abandoned the path of virtue.
Or, alternatively, she can opt to remain in an intimacy-free, emotionally sterile "relationship", and by conscientiously stifling her desires will accumulate some merit for the next life.