flowers wrote:hello and thank you for reading.
my spiritual goal has been to conquer any controling emotion in order to love and have compassion to all, as i believe love and hate can be equally destructive to my reasoning.
but i have encountered one of the opposite sex who i am confused about, tho we have a lot in common, i find it difficult to express myself around them and seem to be caught in a negative pattern despite their friendship.
i believe i am attracted and fearful, both destructive emotions, but am really at a loss on how to conquer. any wisdom gratefully recieved xxx
One thing I've noticed or come to understand when sitting talking with a woman is how fluid and changeable "I" am. At one moment there is a good friend with sincere interest in what she is saying, at another moment there is a horny dog glancincg at her cleavage, at another moment there is a bored man thinking about how I'll be going home from this coffee shop or whatever. So don't get caught in a negative pattern, because that is too fixed. You are fluid too, your understanding, you moods, moment by moment we are changing, stay open and relaxed and watchful....so one moment attracted, one moment fearful, that's perfectly natural, that's the way the Buddha teaches us about our fluid, confused, leaping-here-and -there mind. Somebody once said don't aspire to control the mind, but to no be controlled by it, that's a subtle but important difference....