I am what you might call a loser - in practically everything. I am wondering whether the Buddha had any views on the shame that one feels because of that. Why do we feel it, and what must be done, especially when it dominates one's life, actions, and thoughts?
Hi there, according to Buddhism, if you were born in the human realm with a sensitivity to the Buddha's teaching ( which you demonstrate by being here) it is a very rare status and from what I understand you cannot be called a loser unless your behavipur goes astray and you waste that treasure, and even if that is the case you can sort out your behaviour, that is in your hands. But we have to remember there are powerful accumulated tendencies that will continue to propel us in the wrong direction, don't be too hard on yourself but celebrate the moments when wisdom prevails. And do not drink tiger blood.
Kammalakkhano , bhikkhave, bālo, kammalakkhano pandito, apadānasobhanī paññāti
(The fool is characterized by his/her actions/the wise one is characterized by his/her actions/Wisdom shines forth in behaviour.)
(AN 3.2 Lakkhana Sutta)