Khalil Bodhi wrote:Zom wrote:One more option to consider: fight fire with fire. If she so blindly believes that she will fall away from Jesus and fall into hell - tell her exactly the opposite - that she will fall in hell or in lower worlds because she dismisses Buddha's teaching and has wrong view. And Buddha said that those who behave like that has only two possible destinies: either hell or rebirth as animal.
May be that direct and pure religious statement will make an effect of shock therapy on her. So may be she will open a little bit and start to think.
Sounds like a sure-fire way to destroy a relationship.
Fighting fire with fire is never a solution and not a very Buddhists way of solving things. Remember to avoid falling in the trap of thinking in terms of "me" and "her". Think in terms of "us". Any solution has to be "our" solution, not just yours or hers. It seems that she is trying to raise your daughter and you are. What about raising her together?
Maybe this wil help?: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ANrqHO24Ttw (Raising children - Ajahn Brahm)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PR0w_6F8xDs (Living with Non-Buddhists - Ajahn Brahm)
The second one has a very relevant statement at around 21 minutes: "we really respected your Buddhism, really respected it and the main reason for that is that you've never pushed it down our throat".
Disclaimer: I have no experience in raising kids myself, but I hope this will help you both. I think the Dhamma has some very powerful tools to deal with difficulties between views of two people. Just remember to never push your own view.