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Practicing with a family

Postby Beautiful Breath » Wed Apr 18, 2012 8:59 am

I have recently aquired a new family - well my partner has moved in with her 11yo son. Its all good but the new dynamic makes normal practice difficult. for example, getting up at 5am to practice is not going to go down to well - unless I return to bed afterwards :jumping: ... that's going to give me more to think about than I need when sitting. How do others manage?

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Re: Practicing with a family

Postby Aloka » Wed Apr 18, 2012 9:12 am

Presumably your partner knows you meditate. Discussing it gently with her seems like the best thing to do, so that you can find a time which suits you both .


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Re: Practicing with a family

Postby bodom » Wed Apr 18, 2012 11:29 am

To study is to know the texts,
To practice is to know your defilements,
To attain the goal is to know and let go.

- Ajahn Lee Dhammadharo


With mindfulness immersed in the body
well established, restrained
with regard to the six media of contact,
always centered, the monk
can know Unbinding for himself.

- Ud 3.5


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Re: Practicing with a family

Postby Ben » Wed Apr 18, 2012 11:57 am

Greetings Beautiful Breath,
Be careful about being so accommodating that you loose what you cherish most.
kind regards,

Ben
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Re: Practicing with a family

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Re: Practicing with a family

Postby Ben » Wed Apr 18, 2012 11:04 pm

“No lists of things to be done. The day providential to itself. The hour. There is no later. This is later. All things of grace and beauty such that one holds them to one's heart have a common provenance in pain. Their birth in grief and ashes.”
- Cormac McCarthy, The Road

Learn this from the waters:
in mountain clefts and chasms,
loud gush the streamlets,
but great rivers flow silently.
- Sutta Nipata 3.725

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Re: Practicing with a family

Postby Goofaholix » Thu Apr 19, 2012 7:52 pm

Getting up to meditate before everyone else is awake seems to me to be the most considerate way of doing it, I don't see why anyone would object to that. If that's already a problem it doesn't bode well.

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Re: Practicing with a family

Postby marc108 » Fri Apr 20, 2012 5:05 am

i think obviously you wouldn't want to skip out on an important family event or something for a single sitting, but if you're talking about giving up regular practice for the sake of anything, this would be unwise and unbeneficial to yourself and everyone around you. you will be happier, a better person, a better husband, a better father, etc if you practice regularly that is for sure. the unfortunate reality is, is that people who don't practice don't understand the importance of regular practice and aren't going to be interested in furthering your progress... the world is not set up to foster our spiritual needs, quite the opposite, so sometimes you have to put your foot down. that being said, i don't see any reason you shouldn't be able to wake up early to sit or to sit before you sleep every day baring some sort of illness or disability.
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Re: Practicing with a family

Postby Ben » Fri Apr 20, 2012 7:46 am

“No lists of things to be done. The day providential to itself. The hour. There is no later. This is later. All things of grace and beauty such that one holds them to one's heart have a common provenance in pain. Their birth in grief and ashes.”
- Cormac McCarthy, The Road

Learn this from the waters:
in mountain clefts and chasms,
loud gush the streamlets,
but great rivers flow silently.
- Sutta Nipata 3.725

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“No lists of things to be done. The day providential to itself. The hour. There is no later. This is later. All things of grace and beauty such that one holds them to one's heart have a common provenance in pain. Their birth in grief and ashes.”
- Cormac McCarthy, The Road

Learn this from the waters:
in mountain clefts and chasms,
loud gush the streamlets,
but great rivers flow silently.
- Sutta Nipata 3.725

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"It's easy for us to connect with what's wrong with us... and not so easy to feel into, or to allow us, to connect with what's right and what's good in us."

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"It's easy for us to connect with what's wrong with us... and not so easy to feel into, or to allow us, to connect with what's right and what's good in us."

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