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Monks and Family

Postby clw_uk » Mon Feb 23, 2009 5:28 pm

I have been thinking about ordaining (in the Forest Tradition) but one thing that holds me back is a thought that i might not see my family again ( i always thought this is what happens), is this what happens or is one allowed to visit family (or visa versa) i have heard some stories of monks going home to visit their families


Any info would be great, thanks in advance


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Re: Monks and Family

Postby Cittasanto » Mon Feb 23, 2009 8:25 pm

I have heard stories straight from the monks mouth about his parents and brother visiting him at the monestary, and him going to visit his family, and a story from a former monk who knows a monk (who is quite famous) who visited his parents at christmas
so I think that it is ok but I do think there is a length of time where you can't 2 years I have heard but that may of been Vajrayana and not specifically theravada.
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Re: Monks and Family

Postby clw_uk » Mon Feb 23, 2009 10:05 pm

Thanks for that Manapa

Ive heard some stories like this as well, i imagine there is some sort of "probation" period so to speak, i wonder if the Vinaya has any rules about it
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Re: Monks and Family

Postby Paul Davy » Mon Feb 23, 2009 10:10 pm

Greetings Craig,

This is a good topic. I hope you don't mind if I move it from the Lounge to one of our Theravada forums.

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Re: Monks and Family

Postby clw_uk » Mon Feb 23, 2009 10:52 pm

No not at all


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Re: Monks and Family

Postby Dhammanando » Mon Feb 23, 2009 11:01 pm

Hi Craig,

clw_uk wrote:I have been thinking about ordaining (in the Forest Tradition) but one thing that holds me back is a thought that i might not see my family again ( i always thought this is what happens), is this what happens


No, we're not the Moonies. :smile:

or is one allowed to visit family (or visa versa) i have heard some stories of monks going home to visit their families


Yes, though since this is a matter that is not covered in the Vinaya, in practice the frequency and length of visits will vary according to the in-house rules of a particular community or the views of a particular abbot.

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    Evaṃ lokaṃ avekkhantaṃ, maccurājā na passati.

    One should see it as a bubble;
    One should see it as a mirage.
    Who regards the world thus
    The King of Death sees him not.
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Re: Monks and Family

Postby clw_uk » Mon Feb 23, 2009 11:05 pm

Bhante Dhammanando

Thanks for clearing that up for me :smile:


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