tiltbillings wrote:So, let us process this. You are sitting and a lustful thought pops up, what do you do?
If I remember the Dhamma and have enough wisdom, I try to remember asubha, mindfulness of death, etc. On retreat I had long time ago, what I did was to note it "lust, lust
". There are also other ways such as ignore it, or focus more on primary meditation object, etc.
There is nothing wrong trying to remember all those things, but that pretty much puts your into the realm of conceptualization, of thinking about things, not seeing what is actually happening, which is not to say that these are not useful tools, depending upon the context.
It might be better, assuming your concentration and mindfulness are sufficient, to simply pay attention to the lust. It arises, it elicits a response, you try to wipe it away with the things you suggested, or it arises and you simply pay attention to it without comment, seeing the play of things, such as aversion, that also arise. But in simply paying attention to it without comment, you see it for what it is, the discomfort that goes with the wanting-mind and you also get to actually see -- not think about, but actually see -- the changing and conditioned and empty nature of it. One can sit with very uncomfortable states of mind and not react to them, not getting lost in them, seeing -- not thinking about -- what actually is arising and falling, which is nothing more than six interealted processes.
It takes work to get that point, but it is worth it. One of the things that this sort of practice help one prepare for is sickness and dying.