And betwixt such days . . . .dhammapal wrote:Tomorrow the 29th is Uposatha Day and the Eight Precepts for laypeople include no masturbation and no porn for 4 days in every month. Not too difficult.tiltbillings wrote:the Buddha did not proscribe sex for the laity
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Again, this is your approach. Thanks for sharing. It may be perfect for you, I don't know. I don't know if you are going through similar things, or don't. I just ask you to be careful not to extrapolate your ideas to others, even if well intended. Also because this could just as well get somebody who already is in a guilt trip even further down the drain, by in effect being told their approach is wrong.tiltbillings wrote:It is the basis for insight into the problem at handreflection wrote:Mindfulness is certainly a big part of it, but not the end solution to all problems.
And mindfulness can defuse craving. Because something is a hindrance that does not mean one cannot be mindful of it. It takes work and it is not easy, but it is the fundamental practice that that gives rise to insight.Because craving itself is a hindrance, it interferes with mindfulness.
No, you cannot, but every practice that you mention in your next sentence relies upon some degree of mindfulness.So you can't always arouse the right amount of mindfulness when craving arises.
These particular practices are expedients means, which can be useful, but ultimately it is insight into the rise and fall, the impermanent nature, of one’s urges that is going to be far more liberating.And so, to remove sensual craving, the Buddha also gave teachings on renunciation, on contemplation of the body parts, to see women as sisters, have trust and probably other things I've missed. The Buddha compared craving to a disease, something one should expell, get rid off, not just something to see as it is. Which again, at times I found the best approach, but not always.
But if you are going to do something about it, what will it be? The problem with the former is that without balance it will end up as a teeth gritting exercise that will either fail, sinking the poor person into a pool of self-loathing, or it reinforces one’s sense of self. I am simply pointing out what the balance is from a standpoint of the Buddha’s teachings.Sometimes it may be better to see things as "I am craving and I'll do something about it" instead of "There is craving and I'll just see it as it is".
For me, I experience craving as a hindrance in meditation and thus a hindrance to empower mindfulness. I experience it to be perfectly possible to reflect back on craving with strong mindfulness, but once craving is present, it interferes with mindfulness. True, you can look at craving, but it won't be with full mindfulness, because stronger mindfulness comes through a decrease in hindrances. And so, sometimes mindfulness is strong enough to do as you suggest, but sometimes not.
As I interpret the above, the mind can go all kinds of ways when it is being restrained. And so, a single approach may not work all the time. I need to be a bit flexible. Therefore, I have other means: Renunciation through an act of determination, view and trust, practicing metta when craving arises, enrichening my virtue, and sometimes just walk away and do something else. Those things aren't gritting my teeth, but neither are they based on mindfulness in particular. Well, mindfulness in a sense of remembering to abstain, but not much more than that. It's true that craving will soon disappear, but in this case I don't sit around and wait for it, but I'll reflect on this afterward.As fish from watery home
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I share those ideas here to inspire others, but I try to be careful not to say this is the approach everybody should take for multiple reasons. You're right in a way that if this approach is not understood it will get people into self hate, but also just because this is a sensitive topic.
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I love this logic of the Buddha:tiltbillings wrote:And betwixt such days . . . .dhammapal wrote:Tomorrow the 29th is Uposatha Day and the Eight Precepts for laypeople include no masturbation and no porn for 4 days in every month. Not too difficult.tiltbillings wrote:the Buddha did not proscribe sex for the laity
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With metta / dhammapal.the Buddha transl. Saddhatissa wrote:The wise man should avoid non-celibate life as if it were a burning charcoal pit. If he is unable to lead a celibate life fully, let him not trangress with another's wife.
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I think you need to reread what I wrote, because I simply have not, in any msg, advocated formal sitting meditation as the only way, but I have advocated a generalized mindful approach on a number of levels to the issue at hand.reflection wrote:. . .
>> Do you see a man wise [enlightened/ariya] in his own eyes? There is more hope for a fool than for him.<< -- Proverbs 26:12
This being is bound to samsara, kamma is his means for going beyond. -- SN I, 38.
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I know you didn't just mean sitting, and maybe you should also reread, because I don't remember mentioning this at any point. Meditation also refers to walking, eating, standing, working, typing a post on this board, etc. I try to keep a meditative attitude the entire day. But craving can arise at any moment, so at any moment should there be a suitable approach to it. Not just when sitting with full mindfulness and I understand you didn't mean that, and neither did I.tiltbillings wrote:I think you need to reread what I wrote, because I simply have not, in any msg, advocated formal sitting meditation as the only way, but I have advocated a generalized mindful approach on a number of levels to the issue at hand.reflection wrote:. . .
So, this was a slight confusion, which is ok, that happens. But so, that doesn't change anything to my reply, its essence being that there are more approaches than just mindfulness. First, there are more factors in the path. And the 84000 dhamma doors? I think it applies here as well. For some it may be very efficient to throw their computer out of the window... who will tell? Only they can. It won't be the final solution to it all, but it can contribute.
Edit: I reread my reply and I think you misinterpreted "sit around", which I can understand. Here we also use the term "sit around" as something general for not doing anything in particular about a situation, like "you're sitting there watching me.." while you are actually standing, walking or whatever, but not helping the person. I can imagine this was the source of the confusion. I apologize for this; this is probably something local which just slipped my mind. Each language has its own expressions and I sometimes forget which of them aren't applicable in English. Anyway, it may be interesting to reread my reply with this in mind.
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I can only shrug my shoulders. I don't think you understand what I have said.reflection wrote:. . .
>> Do you see a man wise [enlightened/ariya] in his own eyes? There is more hope for a fool than for him.<< -- Proverbs 26:12
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Well, that won't make your point any more clear... But I think than at least we have arrived at a shared point of view now, which is your second sentence.. Maybe this is a good moment to end the discussion about this to not clutter up the thread, and hoping that others can still make something out of our replies.tiltbillings wrote:I can only shrug my shoulders. I don't think you understand what I have said.reflection wrote:. . .
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Thanks again for that clarification.tiltbillings wrote:And you keep asking that question. Since the Buddha did not proscribe sex for the laity, if one wants to "give into the urges," one should do so with due consideration. But that is not what I am talking about in this context.SDC wrote:Hmm...tiltbillings wrote:Eventually, may be with the attainment of higher ariya status, but in the meantime, we are biological, sexual beings and reproduction is what the body wants. The issue is not not having sexual feelings, but how we relate to them.
So you still are not saying to give into the urges?
So then we are in agreement. When we undercut the power of the urges then their power is reduced, which is what I was saying. And if we keep undercutting their power over and over then it keeps reducing. Control is developed. The power of the feelings starts to go away.tiltbillings wrote:Maybe one might then learn one can have these urges without having to act upon them, knowing their nature, and all that, which undercuts their power.
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It's been five weeks. I have found this practice very insightful. Tilt, if I understand you correctly you are NOT telling people to give in to their urges so as to avoid any self-loathing. Rather you are recommend a change of perspective, that being to observe the rise and fall of lust equanimously whilst enduring it, rather than fighting against it. I have attempted to mindfully observe lust whilst partaking in it, with no result. Also, if I remember correctly the Buddha denounced this approach in the Suttas. However, being celibate has made it must easier to see lust as it is because one is able, through endurance, to observe both the arising AND the fading away of lust, where as if they simply gave in they would continually be missing the fading away which is so essential. One point I feel is important to make is that this thread is not about overcoming lust completely, but rather giving up the coarse ADDICTION to masturbation and pornography which bring considerable grief and should certainly be abandoned. There are many, many Suttas in which the Buddha praises Brahmacharya, not just to the monastics but in general. There are no Suttas, to my knowledge, where the Buddha discourages celibacy, let alone lend forgiving words towards masturbation or voyeurism. Just because a person is lay doesn't mean they shouldn't attempt to abandon lustful behavior, nor does it mean that they should. It is all a matter of how serious you are about the practice. Buddhism is ultimately about renouncing craving, and watching pornography does nothing but generate extremely intense levels of craving.
To all on this thread who are attempting celibacy, I commend you. Don't beat yourself up for failing, it is often inevitable, but do not stop trying either. The more you try the more you learn. The trick is to become aware of lust as it arises and to LET IT GO. It's also very important to know your capabilities, and not to put yourself in a position of danger. Do not, for instances, cultivate lust, or allow lust to cultivate, thinking that you can handle it, and assuming that you won't give in. Lust changes the mindset completely, that is what makes giving masturbation up so difficult. Just today I was marveling at the joy of celibacy, feeling that I had finally made a breakthrough, only a few hours late to nearly give in to masturbation because I allowed lustful thoughts to develop in my mind. Lust always requires some energy on your part, the initial spark may seemingly come without your choosing but you must always CHOOSE to cultivate it further. There is always that moment of choice, the problem is that during that moment of choice you undergo a sudden mental shift (perhaps a spike of dopamine?) and suddenly nothing seems more right than just giving in. It feels so natural to give in and so unnatural, so uncomfortable, to simply let it pass and stop thinking about it. However, it is this unnatural, uncomfortable choice that must continuously be made if one wishes to be successful. The more often you make that choice the easier it becomes. As Buddha so aptly put it, to practice the Dhamma is to go against the stream. I wish all of you happiness, wisdom, and success.
EDIT: I also feel that it is beneficial that we have shameful feelings in regards to masturbation and pornography. Buddha praises shame as a protector. Fear of shame is a perfectly legitimate reason to avoid masturbation. Yes, it would likely be better to overcome lustful behaviors by seeing them as they are, through wisdom, however until this arises it does one little good to go about shamelessly indulging. It is through that practice of endurance and observation that wisdom develops. At the same time one should treat shame similar to the way they treat lust, just to endure it and let it pass. Do not cling to it, do not add to it. Do not wallow in self-view.
"No special techniques, just a great deal of patient endurance, and just being willing to endure through that without acting upon it and seeing it for what it was again and again"
To all on this thread who are attempting celibacy, I commend you. Don't beat yourself up for failing, it is often inevitable, but do not stop trying either. The more you try the more you learn. The trick is to become aware of lust as it arises and to LET IT GO. It's also very important to know your capabilities, and not to put yourself in a position of danger. Do not, for instances, cultivate lust, or allow lust to cultivate, thinking that you can handle it, and assuming that you won't give in. Lust changes the mindset completely, that is what makes giving masturbation up so difficult. Just today I was marveling at the joy of celibacy, feeling that I had finally made a breakthrough, only a few hours late to nearly give in to masturbation because I allowed lustful thoughts to develop in my mind. Lust always requires some energy on your part, the initial spark may seemingly come without your choosing but you must always CHOOSE to cultivate it further. There is always that moment of choice, the problem is that during that moment of choice you undergo a sudden mental shift (perhaps a spike of dopamine?) and suddenly nothing seems more right than just giving in. It feels so natural to give in and so unnatural, so uncomfortable, to simply let it pass and stop thinking about it. However, it is this unnatural, uncomfortable choice that must continuously be made if one wishes to be successful. The more often you make that choice the easier it becomes. As Buddha so aptly put it, to practice the Dhamma is to go against the stream. I wish all of you happiness, wisdom, and success.
EDIT: I also feel that it is beneficial that we have shameful feelings in regards to masturbation and pornography. Buddha praises shame as a protector. Fear of shame is a perfectly legitimate reason to avoid masturbation. Yes, it would likely be better to overcome lustful behaviors by seeing them as they are, through wisdom, however until this arises it does one little good to go about shamelessly indulging. It is through that practice of endurance and observation that wisdom develops. At the same time one should treat shame similar to the way they treat lust, just to endure it and let it pass. Do not cling to it, do not add to it. Do not wallow in self-view.
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Well, let me be as direct as possible. Being porn and whacking-off free for 90 days does not mean a thing in and of itself. The value of such an exercise is not in the abstinence itself, but it is in what one learns in the process and how one learns.reflection wrote:Well, that won't make your point any more clear...tiltbillings wrote:I can only shrug my shoulders. I don't think you understand what I have said.reflection wrote:. . .
The basic tool of Buddhist practice is paying attention. I am having lustful thoughts. What do I do, what do I do before this lust gets a total hold of me!?! “Hair of the head, hair of the body, nails, teeth, skin . . .mmmm, skin, warm soft skin . . . wait, wait . . . hair of the head, hair of the body . . . .”
The parts of the body practice can be effective, as can the other such practices, but one needs to ask as an integral part of the practice and pay attention to one’s feelings: “Why am I doing this practice, what am I feeling in response to this lust?” In other words, one needs to pay attention to what one is doing and why. If the parts of the body practice is done because the lust is making one uncomfortable, one does not like it, one is averse to it, then one is in danger of substituting one hindrance for another, it would seem, and that is worth seeing, worth knowing. Again, it is a matter of paying attention, which should be the constant, ongoing aspect of any of the Buddhist practices we do.
You complain that lust is a hindrance. Of course it is, but that does not mean that the hindrance has to hinder anything. We can learn to step back from the feeling of lust, put a bit of space around it, so to speak, asking ourselves: What is it that I am feeling? And how does feeling lust make me feel? It is a matter of paying attention, and to the choices one makes, especially the habitual choices, one needs to pay attention as well as one can. All of this is a slow process that requires repetition, requires that one be honest with one’s self. All very hard things to do, but paying attention is the foundation of all Dhamma practice, be it formal meditation practice or going about one’s day-to-day life.
Whether the mindfulness is strong or not, one can still sit meditation with a hindrance such as lust/craving. To not do so is to miss a serious learning opportunity.For me, I experience craving as a hindrance in meditation and thus a hindrance to empower mindfulness. I experience it to be perfectly possible to reflect back on craving with strong mindfulness, but once craving is present, it interferes with mindfulness. True, you can look at craving, but it won't be with full mindfulness, because stronger mindfulness comes through a decrease in hindrances. And so, sometimes mindfulness is strong enough to do as you suggest, but sometimes not.
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“Of course it is happening inside your head, Harry, but why on earth should that mean that it is not real?” HPatDH p.723
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You have learned something, but probably better to sit quietly with the lust, doing nothing more than watching it without comment. Keep in mind here I am not advocating mindful masturbation, though if you are going to whack-off, really pay attention without expectation as to what will happen, but just pay attention. I think, however, just sitting quietly with the mind full of lust would be a better choice.Moth wrote:It's been five weeks. I have found this practice very insightful. Tilt, if I understand you correctly you are NOT telling people to give in to their urges so as to avoid any self-loathing. Rather you are recommend a change of perspective, that being to observe the rise and fall of lust equanimously whilst enduring it, rather than fighting against it. I have attempted to mindfully observe lust whilst partaking in it, with no result.
You might ask yourself what is the real reason why you want to be celibate. Actually, what is really interesting is sitting quietly with a mind burning with lust; it doesn't really fade away; it simply stops, leaving a coolness, nibbutti -- well, a wee taste of it.However, being celibate has made it must easier to see lust as it is because one is able, through endurance, to observe both the arising AND the fading away of lust, where as if they simply gave in they would continually be missing the fading away which is so essential.
Good advice and letting go comes with insight.To all on this thread who are attempting celibacy, I commend you. Don't beat yourself up for failing, I too have failed countless times, but do not stop trying either. To more you try the more you learn. The trick is to become aware of lust as it arises and to LET IT GO.
As I said, paying attention to one's choices in key, especially the small choices.Lust always requires some energy on your part, the initial spark may seemingly come without your choosing but you must always CHOOSE to cultivate it further. There is always that moment of choice, the problem is that during that moment of choice you undergo a sudden mental shift (perhaps a spike of dopamine?) and suddenly nothing seems more right than just giving in.
And if it gets to that point that is what one should sit with; you do not have to act on it. Be uncomfortable without comment; allow oneself simply to feel it. It wil pass. Watch the wanting it to pass, the aversion, all of the stuff that goes with it. This is very hard to do; it takes practice, but it can be done.It feels so natural to give in and so unnatural, so uncomfortable, to simply let it pass and stop thinking about it.
Always comes down to choices.However, it is this unnatural, uncomfortable choice that must continuously be made if one wishes to be successful. The more often you make that choice the easier it becomes. As Buddha so aptly put it, to practice the Dhamma is to go against the stream. I wish all of you happiness, wisdom, and success.
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This being is bound to samsara, kamma is his means for going beyond. -- SN I, 38.
“Of course it is happening inside your head, Harry, but why on earth should that mean that it is not real?” HPatDH p.723
This being is bound to samsara, kamma is his means for going beyond. -- SN I, 38.
“Of course it is happening inside your head, Harry, but why on earth should that mean that it is not real?” HPatDH p.723
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True, one can learn alot there. There is a clear criterion for failing and if one recognises lust and passion in the mind throughout the day, there is no unexpected trouble after a while. If one watches these experiences of lust and passion often enough, they may rather get repetitive and loose their power over oneself.Moth wrote: To all on this thread who are attempting celibacy, I commend you. Don't beat yourself up for failing, it is often inevitable, but do not stop trying either. The more you try the more you learn.
Besides the choice itself to renunciate, i find it much more more important how this choice is made and executed. If one forces the mind to decisions by repulsion or greed, this will easily build up tension, making it more difficult to renunciate in the long-run.Moth wrote: The more often you make that choice the easier it becomes. As Buddha so aptly put it, to practice the Dhamma is to go against the stream. I wish all of you happiness, wisdom, and success.
Exactly I still find the teaching of dependent origination most useful here so that one knows better what process to watch though. But it's just all watching, investigating, exploring. Nothing special reallyMoth wrote: "No special techniques, just a great deal of patient endurance, and just being willing to endure through that without acting upon it and seeing it for what it was again and again"
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Moth wrote: To all on this thread who are attempting celibacy, I commend you. Don't beat yourself up for failing, it is often inevitable, but do not stop trying either. The more you try the more you learn.
I will add my thought:
To maintain celibacy is a struggle, but I would conclude that this kind of hard-to-maintain-celibacy is just a tool for something greater. You are not meant to live in a struggle with sexual urges for the rest of your life. You are meant to realize things in such a way that passion and lust all fade away without struggle. If hard-to-maintain-celibacy can help you create a good mental environment for you to realize deeper things, then it is good for you. On the other hand: If you still are in celibacy and still have the same struggle 50 years from now, then I do not trust your method. Masturbate and do away with your pride - confess you have not reached the goal even though you have maintained celibacy for that long.
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What you say is wise and true, thanks. It also becomes clearer what your point of view is now. But there are things that are mising in that approach and one is the analogy of the smokers I gave. Some can give up smoking gradually, maybe sometimes still smoke a sigarette afterward, but others have to stop cold turkey or it won't work. So for them part of the value is in making it without smoking, not just learning about it. I have already learned that I'm in the second category with respect to the issue discussed here.tiltbillings wrote:..
Let me maybe make my intentions a bit clearer. I do not really do this for a 90 days challenge, but think about becoming a monk so this may be the rest of my life. And if I keep being sexually active sometimes, I'm sure my lust will not decrease a lot, if at all. Now, I see you are not suggesting to indulge, but I think part of the value is the abstaining itself, because sensual activity increases lust. And having a loose attitude towars it doesn't works for me, at least, looking back at past experiences.
Sometimes craving arises, and I'm not in right place, time or mindset to do as you suggest. Or I try but it simply doesn't work. So there's other practices I do which were suggested to me by some of my teachers, and by the Buddha. Just like I said, it's not really mindfulness that does it for me. I experienced metta works good against anger, and contemplation works good against lust. (not just contemplation of body parts, but also of trust/past experiences etc). Greed, hatred and delusion are the three poisons I each threat differently. Mindfulness is not always so great for greed and hatred for me personally.
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reflection wrote: I experienced metta works good against anger, and contemplation works good against lust. (not just contemplation of body parts, but also of trust/past experiences etc). Greed, hatred and delusion are the three poisons I each threat differently. Mindfulness is not always so great for greed and hatred for me personally.
Lust tends to exponentiate itself. After cultivating it for a certain period of time, there comes a point where all my understandings and months of celibacy mean NOTHING and I give in. Allowing oneself to sink into heightened states of lust like this for the purpose of observing these states is a recipe for failure. The practice, I believe, is to stop fueling the fire, to stop letting lust develop via one's conscious decisions; to examine intention and begin to practice RIGHT intention no matter how unpleasant it may feel. Mindfulness is still important here, but so is endurance as well as skillful techniques such as contemplating foulness, or simply removing oneself from the physical situation and going somewhere where they cannot act upon lust until it subsides. These techniques are just an expression of right intention.
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