How can I deal with irritability in the morning?

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How can I deal with irritability in the morning?

Postby EmptyCittas1by1 » Sat Feb 08, 2014 6:06 pm

I notice that when I wake up, I'm irritable and unmindful for about an hour. I try to be mindful but there's just some block. I've tried investigating, but it's very difficult.

What have you guys found to be the main cause of irritability?
"Eat little! Sleep little! Speak little! Whatever it may be of worldly habit, lessen them, go against their power. Don't just do as you like, don't indulge in your thought. Stop this slavish following. You must constantly go against the stream of ignorance. This is called "Discipline." When you discipline your heart, it becomes very dissatisfied and begins to struggle. It becomes restricted and oppressed. When the heart is prevented from doing what it wants to do, it starts wandering and struggling. Suffering becomes apparent to us."

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Re: How can I deal with irritability in the morning?

Postby Baylien » Sat Feb 08, 2014 6:40 pm

Hi,
I'm just a beginner in all this, but here's some thoughts
Not sure on your age, but blood sugar could be doing this, or
Sometimes, drugs like smoking, caffiene etc can be a cause. if unsure a quick check up at the docs will help alleviate any worry.
or maybe its just a need to control things, wanting this not wanting that etc.
Maybe If when you experience this next time, ask why you are feeling this way, pick up on what is continuing this
as its usually just mind bable, and us taking notice and acting on it.
As soon as I'm aware of this sort of discomfort, I stop, let it have the conversation, give metta without acting on the conversation.
If we do nothing it wont feed the want.
Hope this help a bit
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Re: How can I deal with irritability in the morning?

Postby Babadhari » Sat Feb 08, 2014 6:51 pm

hi emptycittas1

i think the main cause of my irritability in the mornings is failure to prepare thhings properly the night before.
i can find myself pressed for time and put myself under unneccessary pressure by rushing.
ive found how my attitude in the morning has a great bearing on my mood for the rest of the day so i try to feel gratitude first thing in the morning.
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Re: How can I deal with irritability in the morning?

Postby Mkoll » Sat Feb 08, 2014 6:56 pm

Hi EC1by1,

There are lots of possible causes. Diet, not getting enough sleep, not sleeping well, unresolved stress, going to sleep to late, and not keeping a regular sleeping schedule immediately come to my mind and any could well be causative factors. If you provide some more details, I could give better tips but here are some general ones.

• Don’t eat late at night; stay away from caffeine, sugar, etc. at night.
• Eat whole foods, organic if possible: vegetables (especially green leafy and cruciferous), fungi, beans, whole grains, fruit.
• Get enough sleep, at least 6-8 hours .
• If you’re not sleeping well (awake at night, waking up in middle of night), figure out what’s causing it; the tips here might help.
• Early to bed, early to rise makes a man healthy, wealthy, and wise. So said Ben Franklin and it’s true in my experience. Go to bed earlier and wake up earlier.
• Go to bed and wake up at the same time whenever possible

My personal experience based on hindsight:

I used to be irritable and groggy in the morning because I hated the feelings associated with waking up, I hated the morning, I hated the whole concept of it. I was depressed at the time so I hated a lot of things. I also usually went to bed around 3am on the weekdays and woke up for school around 8pm so I never got enough sleep. I was chronically tired and that contributed to irritability. I hated the thought of facing another pointless day. I hated getting out of my warm, comfortable bed. On the weekends, I avoided the morning by going to bed ridiculously late and waking up some time in the late afternoon.

Hope some of that helps.


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Re: How can I deal with irritability in the morning?

Postby purple planet » Sat Feb 08, 2014 7:05 pm

A tip that worked well for me - yet most of the time i dont do now days is :

to go to sleep mindful - be mindful of the preparation to go to sleep as much as possible and be mindful of you breathing after lying down
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Re: How can I deal with irritability in the morning?

Postby Sokehi » Sat Feb 08, 2014 7:06 pm

When I was living for a couple of months as an Anagarika at Wat Pah Nanachat back in '02 I experienced not only what you describe but fear every morning. I struggled with dreams of home and beloved sibblings, friends, favorite pasttimes and stuff like that. Then waking up in a Thai Forest at roughly 3 am to go on pindabat when everything is dark, sometimes wet and cold gave me a horrible feeling of "what am I doing here". What I discovered was that this as well as any other mental sensation and feelings vanish. Especially when the sun rose I felt much much better.

So obviously your situation is way different, you're most likely not suffering with weired culture shock difficulties, but the basic principle stays: whatever arises ceases. Just try to be aware and stay interested and observant with your Irritability. Make this your worthy opponent.

Back then I tried playing around with doing things a bit differently:
- started chanting the metta sutta and other rather short but beautiful chants to prepare myself with something beautiful before going "to bed"
- got up 10 minutes earlier than necessary to practice some walking meditation to counter that onslaught of emotions and anxiety

Basically try to start your new day with something beautiful, enjoyable, something to feel comfortable when waking up and doing this before any other thing or heavy thinking about difficult emotions. As well as ending each day with something equally beautiful.

That helped back then :namaste:
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Re: How can I deal with irritability in the morning?

Postby EmptyCittas1by1 » Sat Feb 08, 2014 9:22 pm

Thanks guys :anjali:
"Eat little! Sleep little! Speak little! Whatever it may be of worldly habit, lessen them, go against their power. Don't just do as you like, don't indulge in your thought. Stop this slavish following. You must constantly go against the stream of ignorance. This is called "Discipline." When you discipline your heart, it becomes very dissatisfied and begins to struggle. It becomes restricted and oppressed. When the heart is prevented from doing what it wants to do, it starts wandering and struggling. Suffering becomes apparent to us."

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Re: How can I deal with irritability in the morning?

Postby befriend » Sat Feb 08, 2014 9:46 pm

if you start practicing metta, you will eventually wake up like a flower blooming, refreshed and without lethargy and also happy, I can vouch for this. it also causes one to sleep soundly and have pleasant dreams and no nightmares.
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Re: How can I deal with irritability in the morning?

Postby m0rl0ck » Sat Feb 08, 2014 10:57 pm

Some practice and / or a nice cup of black tea and a bite to eat work for me.
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"And you'll be able to gain release from suffering only when you know the one mind."

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Re: How can I deal with irritability in the morning?

Postby PimonratC » Sun Feb 09, 2014 2:08 am

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practice practice practice

and practice

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Re: How can I deal with irritability in the morning?

Postby chownah » Sun Feb 09, 2014 2:59 am

If you try all of the great advise already given and it doesn't work then just stay in bed and meditate while flat on your back for that grumpy hour.....if you consistently fall asleep while doing this then it is a sign that your body needs more sleep and that hour will help to give it to you.
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