I want to thank you all for the MANY insightful and respectful posts made in this discussion. Speaking for my self (non-self?) i feel that i have gained greater clarity here, about these issues.
[EDIT: Comments regarding other sites removed - Retro.]
I would therefore request that the moderators consider closing this discussion
"As Buddhists, we should aim to develop relationships that are not predominated by grasping and clinging. Our relationships should be characterised by the brahmaviharas of metta (loving kindness), mudita (sympathetic joy), karuna (compassion), and upekkha (equanimity)."
~post by Ben, Jul 02, 2009