Moth wrote:Practicing Brahmacarya now. Trying to dissolve lust from the mind, though I realize it is a long process. One thing I've really started to notice is how entranced I become upon seeing an attractive woman. The mind becomes stuck, overwhelmed by craving. It's not entirely sexual, but it all has to do with the physical form. I was wondering if anyone knew any good techniques to aid in overcoming this attachment to physical beauty. I've been trying to apply Buddha's teaching on analyzing the impurities of the body, imagining the pretty girl as an old woman, as a corpse, etc. It works a little bit but not enough.
imagine her with really bad diarrhea.
also, how are you living? just out in the world with a job or school etc? not in seclusion or temple? this makes a great deal of difference, but as my situation shows (as well as that of many exmonks) even this is no guarantee of success
meditation and similar practices have their usefulness in this area but i think the real work here is just taking a step back, being honest about your situation and analyzing it rationally. ie. when i see this person i get these feelings, are these feelings i want, or am comfortable with, are they beneficial to progress in the areas i want to work on?
things such as this. you will find that sometimes a clear headed rational look at a situation will do the trick, other times we choose more pain and suffering regardless. i knew at the time if i left the temple, didnt fully ordain (i was an angarika) and went off to make a life with the person i'm with now that i would be looking at a life with more suffering than my life as a monk would have, or at least a very different type of suffering. i knew my time for practice would be cut to almost nothing as i would have to go back to college, i'd have to work and support another person, i'd have to deal with jealousy, arguments, sickness, separation, death etc. but i also knew if i was having this dialog with myself that i wasn't ready to ordain, so i said hey give me some more of that samsara please
, knowing i'd either be okay or so disgusted by lay life that I'd be 100% ready for the robes. it's still a struggle