Isn't this a thread about why there is fear of death? How did it devolve into all this bickering?
Fear of death is pretty common - whether it's 'wrong' or not - it's pretty common. Animals fear death - we're hard-wired with survival instict. There's all sorts of societal conditioning to make people afraid of death.
There's loads to talk about - in a nice, honest fashion - about why you fear death - or think others fear death. That would be an interesting discussion. Not this 'discussion' though - and do I really want to dignify it by calling it a discussion?
Mayhap people are afraid to voice their true thoughts, musings and fears because - y'know - they might get
debated at.
It's ok to 'wonder', it's ok to 'not be RIGHT', and just say what you feel about the subject of death. You can take the suttas literally if you want - it's OK (and there are MANY references to literal re-births - one of which is "You can't meet anyone without that person having been your mother, father, sister, brother, etc etc" and loads of others that come to mind. No, I'm not going to cite - I'd have to flip through all my nikayas - I don't have a download on all the translations. But I know what I've read.
I take a sutta study class and I've never seen our teacher get bent out of shape if anyone says - "Hey Bhante - you know the one where the Buddha and Ananda are yakking about ..." "Oh, it's the such and such sutta - page so and so - in the Pali it reads ...but yes, the paraphrase you gave is essentially correct - except that it should be clarified that ...." Gentle correction and teaching.
Or - "Bhante - I really think all this stuff about the Devas and all that in the story of the Buddha is just exposition." "Yes, many people take that view. What do others think? " Many hands go up - many different ideas are spoken- no one debates or gets stroppy or defensive. The teacher finds it all interesting and says what HE thinks - but doesn't insist that he's the end all and be all. He also provides background as to general Indian cosmology at the time of the Buddha to put things into perspective. Not nastily or angrily - just matter of fact "teacherally". (Bleah, that's a bad made up word but it's late here on Mt. Meru).
But I digress ... apologies ...
I'm sure there are some people who fear death because they ARE afraid of a future rebirth. Well - it's ok for them to say it. In " real reality" - it's ok to say it. It's an opinion - might be right or wrong. It can be discussed - not debated.
Or maybe you think - well - I really don't think there's any 'rebirth' - but - you know - I don't know - all the crap you grow up hearing - what if ..."
That's ok to say out loud as well. And we could get into - wow - all that conditioning you get - what's that about? How can we look at that in practise - in meditation - in musings. But - sadly - no. It's more important to seem clever, well-read, "intelligent" ... a pox on well-read, witty, intelligent Buddhists, I say!
Just my two groats from Mt. Meru,
V.