Satori wrote:Do Buddhists believe sex is a negative thing or unskillful? Or at least in some schools Buddhism?
A buddhist monk said that both homosexuality and hetrosexuality arise from ignorance and cause craving , lust and attachement.
Does this mean that in Buddhism sex is seen as a wrongdoing? Or at least in some schools of Buddhism?
It's not a wrongdoing, but sure it is an action that springs from attachment to pleasure, ignorance and craving. We are sentient beings, aren't we?
Is this "normal"? Of course, it is! Is it skillful? Relatively speaking, yes, it can be skillful if practiced in a caring way in a loving relationship, as opposed to misusing sexuality.
Is it the ultimate in skillful action? I guess not if it's about pleasing oneself, serving others would be more skillful, IMO.
To me it is important not to fall into the Western Judeo-Christian notion of sin (original or otherwise) while talking about sex. Buddhism starts exactly where we are and is not about judging. It is about learning to see matters as they are. If you see something as unwholesome, harmful, etc you leave it behind, rather than because the Book tells you it's bad. Same with sex, for most of us there are more important matters for practice than becoming celibate right now. On the other hand bringing some mindfulness to sex can illuminate the extent of clinging and papanca that goes on and that I found useful.