Hello all,
I'm forever confused about 'rebirth'/'rebecoming'. I know this topic has been discussed to DEATH here and in other Buddhist forums, but I'm not afraid to be the one that asks stupid questions if it'll help me understand something. Please forgive me if you're bored of this topic, maybe just ignore me?
Right, Punabbhava, as I understand it so far, is a process by which this "I" came into being. There were a set of conditions that existed and led to "my" existence. During "my" life (including the moment of "my" death) "I" make choices and do 'stuff'. This 'stuff' will be a contributing factor in another 'becoming'. Am I right so far?
So, firstly, what do we call the next 'becoming' which is the result of many factors (including "my" volition)? Is it okay to say "My next life" or is this confusing things? Similarly, what do we call the life that played a role in "my" becoming? Is it okay to say "My previous life/past life" or is this confusing things too? What is the correct nomenclature for the sentient beings whose lives are linked in samsara?
Secondly, I don't quite understand what 'punabbhava' is... so I'll give a summary of my understanding. Could you please correct me where I make mistakes and maybe point to suttas that can help me? It seems to me that:
1) there is no permanent/eternal soul. No permanent "me", no permanent "self". Therefore, when "I" die, that's it for "me", but if "I"'ve not attained Nibbana my choices in life become a contributing factor in another being's 'becoming'. Is this okay so far?
2) there is no 'thing' that goes from "my" life to the next one. The next life is the result of many contributing factors including "my" own life, but "my" body, "my" mind, "my" consciousness, "my" personality... "me"... dies and rots. Is this right?
3) in "my" life it is possible to develop such a deep realisation that I could somehow visualise the 'past lives' that lead to where "I" am. (I think, but I may be wrong, the Buddha developed this via the Jhanas?)... but as no 'thing' from those lives exists in "mine", this visualisation is not simply a memory exercise, more of a transcendence. Is that right?
Taking all that into account I am slightly worried that my materialistically-trained mind has latched onto another idea... that punabbhava is nothing more than the process by which a baby is made (the birds and the bees, so to speak). Now I am SURE this is wrong view, so I'd rather like to be corrected! In my mind I have the 'cause' of a new being as 'sex between two people'... that new person lives (hopefully) after the parents have died... so is this simply what punabbhava is teaching? I'm conflicted because I know a LOT of people have MUCH more Dhamma knowledge and understanding than me, and they've not come to this conclusion (after all, the new 'being' comes after the old 'being's' death, right?). Could someone please explain punabbhava for me correcting my mistakes and quoting from the canon? I would appreciate it so much!
Many many thanks

