Buddha-Dharma-Sangha is understood as "Awakened-Truth-Purity." So after we have taken rufuge, we are now walking the path by honoring conduct (e.g., precepts and vows) because that's the way of the "Awakened." Now we rely on Dharma as "Truth" and Sangha as "Purity". In short, we decide to walk the path and to be detached.
That's not quite so from a Theravada perspective, and given it was posted in the Discovering Theravada forum, I'm going to have to disallow it... sorry.
Not really...it is Buddhism in general if your mind allows. This is all I have to say, and one day I hope you will see that too instead of getting into the disagreements that have been going on for centuries and considered them as your personal problems.
Lastly, taking refuge in Buddha does not mean relying on a statue of Buddha or Sangha or Sutras as they can be easily destroyed. For example, Sangha for someone who does not live near a Sangha this would be a problem right. Taking refuge in the triple jewels from my understanding means to decide to walk the path.
I would like see how you understand Triple Jewels.