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My mother

Postby shellybergin » Sat May 15, 2010 9:45 pm

Hey guys
My mother is an alcoholic and we as a family are at our wits end with tryin to get her help. I heard a mans story on the telly about this and i need to know more.

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Re: My mother

Postby Ben » Sat May 15, 2010 10:07 pm

Hi Shelly

If you do a search on Dhamma Wheel on 'alcoholism' and 'addiction', you should be able to pull up a number of threads that will be of benefit.
Your mother has really got to be the one who is motivated to give up alcohol. If she hasn't got the motivation it won't matter what approach you use. If she does have the motivation, I would be inclined to direct her towards a 12-step program or get a referral to the drug and alcohol clinic at a major hospital close to where you live. I know some people within my own tradition having success with breaking their addictions by attending a ten-day course of vipassana meditation/ Again, the individual needs to have a strong motivation to free themselves from addiction otherwise they won't stay the ten-days or after completing the course they go back to their addiction.
All the very best and I wish your mother a swift recovery
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Re: My mother

Postby Bhikkhu Pesala » Sun May 16, 2010 7:33 pm

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Re: My mother

Postby jcsuperstar » Sun May 16, 2010 7:48 pm

the latest issue of inquiring mind is all about addiction
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Re: My mother

Postby Nibbida » Thu May 20, 2010 4:30 am

By all means do anything you can to encourage her to get treatment. That being said, it is even more important to recognize what is within and what is beyond your control. Your primary focus may well be on using the tools of Buddhism to deal with your reactions to her situation.
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Re: My mother

Postby AryaSravaka » Sun May 23, 2010 1:22 pm

shellybergin wrote:Hey guys
My mother is an alcoholic and we as a family are at our wits end with tryin to get her help. I heard a mans story on the telly about this and i need to know more.

Kind regards

if she is into christianity u can take her to church and let her feel the religious bliss.. or u can take her to a buddhist monastery and let her meditate for 15 min and the she will find a better hobby. meditation :)
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