tilakkhana wrote:If there is no self, and one realises this, wouldn't they more like stop treating everybody else as individual selves too?
... but how do bhikkhus act compassionately for the good of all beings if they are away from the mundane world within the monastic setting? Is the effects of their compassion limited merely to the lay followers that reach out to them?
I know you asked for sutta quotes, but I wanted to convey a bit of personal experience instead. As I've started to grasp the reality of anatta, I've realized how much of my own personal suffering I had generated by trying to bolster and maintain that all-important self-image. Once you begin to detect it in yourself, you can sometimes see it in others, too. When you see how much pain some people inflict on themselves in support of their "self", it's hard not
to feel compassion for them.
As for your second question, I've had only one real meeting with a monk but even that was enough to reveal the tremendous benefits available to all of us by their maintenance of the teachings and the example they set. Had I never met a monk, I would still feel I have benefitted greatly by their chosen existence.