pedro1985 wrote:But. How does a "lay-person" find the middle-way.
This is a brilliant question. My answer is to contemplate the 3 marks of existence. Notice that even the things that bring you the most joy and happiness are dissatisfying. This is because you know all good things eventually come to an end. They're temporary and impersonal.
For example, how would a married man find the middle way in subjects as "non-attachment" to people when he loves his wife.
By cherishing his wife in the moment, and loving her for how she is without putting expectations upon her.
I mean, with all respect, as far as I know the Buddha (Gautama) abandoned his wife and child to live a life in seclusion.
And he returned to his wife and as a gift to his son, his inheritance was to induct his son, Rahula into the order, the brotherhood in the Sangha. Hearing that her husband was leading a holy life, Yasodhara emulated him by removing her jewellery, wearing a plain yellow robe and eating only one meal a day. Although relatives sent her messages to say that they would maintain her, she did not take up those offers. Several princes sought her hand but she rejected the proposals. Throughout his six year absence, Princess Yasodharā followed the news of his actions closely. When the Buddha visited Kapilavatthu after enlightenment, Yasodhara did not go to see her former husband but thought: "Surely if I have gained any virtue at all the Lord will come to my presence." Some time after her son Rahula became a novice Monk, Yasodhara also entered the Order of Monks and Nuns and within time attained Arahantship. She was ordained as Bhikkhuni included among the five hundred ladies following the Pajapati Gotami to establish Bhikkhuni Order. She was declared as foremost in possessing the supernatural power among the Nuns. Amongst female disciples she was chief of those who attained great supernormal powers. She died at 78, two years before Buddha's Parinibbana as one of his disciples. His renunciation of the householder life in favor of discovering Nibbana and saved his wife and she attained Arahantship. Bet you haven't heard that part of the story. It's a great story.
Most Sutta's I have read so far are aimed to teach monks, rather than lay-people. Are there any people among you who are married (or single or maybe in a relationship) and who follow the teachings of the Buddha?
I am a celibate non-bhikkhuni which makes me a lay woman but I take up 8 precepts. (^_^) It's like not being a laywomen nor formally ordained. There's a lot of suttas specifically for laymen and women one of which that immediately comes to mind is the Sigalovada Sutta.
What do the teachings of the Buddha mean to you? Why do you call yourself a "Buddhist"? How do you follow the teachings?
Which of the teachings do you follow, and (maybe), if there are any, are there any specific things of the Buddha's teachings that you choose not to follow?
I follow the teachings I know about, and I review the Vinaya Monastic code, but I don't follow it because I am not ordained. I can say I do know the Patimokkha, but I don't adopt the 311 precepts nor do I feel urgent pressure to do so.
How do you practice the teachings, or do you just read about them?
Meditate, read the suttas, practice what is taught. Be mindful and concentrate, live morally, watch what I say and do.
Well, I'm very interested in hearing from you.
In the meantime, read this:http://www.accesstoinsight.org/tipitaka ... .nara.htmlhttp://www.accesstoinsight.org/lib/auth ... rming.html