I first encountered the Therevada 40 years ago and this is the first time I have ever seen any mention of ancestors...I think Hannze you might be conflating that with local customs
Hanzze wrote:Dear jmeff,
you get to know your self, when you stay there what actually is. Do you think that in the present, without future and past innocence can be loosed? As long as you take the things simple and stay as well as possible in the present, you will be always innocent. The past is gone.
Kim gave a real good advice, be just mindful in your actions (without history or future) and give your family always a chance. I guess it is good to spend more time with the family and I am sure in some month you will know for you self.
But like always just an opinion, trust you innocence/your heart!
No need to become something what already is.
He has already described "what he already is."...scared.
No amount of well meaning denial will alter that. There is no ideal person waiting to be revealed.
He and all of us are creating our future reality.
And in 40 years exposure to the Theravada no one until now has ever even addressed the issue of "the ancestors" That sounds like a residue of Confusiuanism.