Let me put it as simply as only a simpleton can:
I get smart, and feel like letting off steam at someone at work who has really yanked my chain.
But then, I catch myself being a possible, potential jerk, and smile because to let off steam would be an un-Mindful and un-Skilful thing to do.
The one who knows, is the one who's smiling.
It's all 'me', but it's just that my foolishness can get the better of me.
However, my foolishness does this less and less, because the smiler is becoming more skilful at smiling.
"Samsara: The human condition's heartbreaking inability to sustain contentment."
Elizabeth Gilbert, 'Eat, Pray, Love'. Simplify: 17 into 1 WILL go: Mindfulness!Quieta movere magna merces videbatur.
(Sallust, c.86-c.35 BC)
Translation: Just to stir things up seemed a good reward in itself. I am sooooo happy - How on earth could I be otherwise?! http://www.armchairadvice.co.uk/relationships/forum/