8 precepts

[befriend]

im trying to practice the 8 precepts i cant seem to manage the no sexuality part. how does one refrain without having all your sexuality build up. then you cant take it and give in. thank you. metta, befriend

[Cittasanto]

im trying to practice the 8 precepts i cant seem to manage the no sexuality part. how does one refrain without having all your sexuality build up. then you cant take it and give in. thank you. metta, befriend

patience!
try to direct your attention and energy into something else.

remember there is nothing wrong with making a mistake and then learning from it. try not to think in black and white here.

[Hickersonia]

how does one refrain without having all your sexuality build up. then you cant take it and give in.

Meditation is probably the right answer.

My answer has been with minimal meditation (family vs. meditation = lots of time restrictions) and a lot of contemplation on the foulness of the body. When I see a woman I find attractive, rather than leer at her menacingly, I determine the least attractive thing I can think of about her, something that I know is true and undeniable, usually focusing on something like internal organs, bodily fluids, and what she'll look like in 50, 75, 100, or 250 years. I just don't get off on that sorta stuff I guess...

After having put down 15 years solid of porn addiction, I can speak volumes to the difficulty inherent to beating sexual desire, especially in my case -- I'm married! So it is kinda expected that I'll perform sexually at least once in a while! I'm actually in the position of worrying that I could become disinterested in sex to the point where I couldn't do it anymore -- wouldn't that be chaos!

I've had a great level of success controlling my urges and, with diligence, patience, and meditation, I'm sure we can all surpass this grossest of primal urges. Give it the proper time and you will succeed.

[Yana]

Hello,

First of all there is No sexuality building up..It's only a chemical reaction in the brain much like happiness and sadness,it's all in your head,and it only gives you the impression/illusion that is building up because you are focusing on it.

The more you focus on something the more it builds up..like anger you magnify it.

Always remember that the sexual feeling will pass but due to it's strong nature it might seem like it won't until you give in.For this reason you need to implement a few methods to make it subside naturally.

1. Meditate on the foulness of the body. Think about everything revolting like blood,feces,pus,bacteria etc..
2. If there is a particular person you desire think about all the revolting things in her/his body like i mentioned above.
3.Meditate on your own body.So that you'll realize you are just skin,nails,hair,etc.
4.Look at images of people who were once beautiful but who have now grown wrinkled,crippled and old.
5.Read Dhamma books to take your mind off sex.
6.Write a letter to yourself when your not feeling sexual and read it when you face this issue.Remind yourself of Nibbanna and how important it is to realize it.Think about the sacrifice The Buddha had to make to reach it. Nothing great can ever come without sacrifice.Also write down all the consequences of craving for sensual pleasures and all the benefits of surpassing it.
7.Realize how important it is to train in morality,to keep yourself pure.And to always guard this purity 24/7.Most people don't have a problem with sitting down to meditate or read a lot of dhamma books but can you imagine how rare it is to have someone master their own actions.Be that person!
8.Remember that if you can't train something gross like the body then how do you expect to train something subtle like the mind.
9.Always be mindful.
10.Anapanasati..breath meditation...this is by far the most effective technique because when you are doing this meditaion you are not trying to stop thinking about sex,you are not trying to restrain yourself,that's the thing..your not trying at all..your mind is completely focused on your breathing your not thinking about anything else..not about dinner,or tv,or doctor's appointmet or sex..nothing..just breath..that's the only thing thats exists.By the time your done,trust me, "you won't be in the mood."
11.Last but not least..just say No and don't do it.There's a million reason why you want to.
But don't.Simple.Nobody else gonna do it for you.Your life your call.


I hope this helps

[befriend]

thanks for the supports guys, lots of good stuff. metta, Befriend

[theY]

8 precepts can make a masturbation.

3rd's elements rule of 8 precepts:

1.Rāgacitta that want to make love.
2.Try to make love.
3.Crash pee door/back door/mouth and a man's pee door*.

*I don't know polite words to say about those things.

However, masturbation has rāgacitta, so your precept will sully a little bit.

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