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Re: How do you/did you tell unsupportive parents?

Postby Hanzze » Wed Oct 13, 2010 4:48 am

Suddhodana the Sakiyan spoke thus:
...Lord, when the Bhagava gave up the world, it was a great pain to me, so it was when Nanda did the same and now my pain is excessive that Rahula has done so as well. The love for a son, Lord, cuts into the skin... and dwells even in the marrow. Pray, Lord, do not let the venerable ones confer the going-forth on a son without the mother's and father's permission." Thus the rule come to be laid down respecting the ordination of a Samanera: "O bhikkhus, let no son receive the going - forth without the mother's and father's permission. Whoever should let one such go forth, there is an offence of wrong-doing"
Last edited by Hanzze on Sun Oct 31, 2010 8:05 pm, edited 1 time in total.
Just that! *smile*
...We Buddhists must find the courage to leave our temples and enter the temples of human experience, temples that are filled with suffering. If we listen to Buddha, Christ, or Gandhi, we can do nothing else. The refugee camps, the prisons, the ghettos, and the battlefields will become our temples. We have so much work to do. ... Peace is Possible! Step by Step. - Samtach Preah Maha Ghosananda "Step by Step" http://www.ghosananda.org/bio_book.html

BUT! it is important to become a real Buddhist first. Like Punna did: Punna Sutta Nate sante baram sokham _()_
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Re: How do you/did you tell unsupportive parents?

Postby Viriya » Fri Oct 29, 2010 1:15 pm

Some shared experiences from Youtube on the topic...some with less supportive parents, some with more.

Ven. Uttamo (4) - Parents' Opposition
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ATPIr0zL_1k

Ven. Uttamo (6) - Ordination and the parents
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H3ebbWwpTG8&feature=related

Ven. Kumara (8) - Dealing with Parents
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AbcZMvdBpbY&feature=related

Ven. Kumara's experience sounds rather like my own...

Ven. Kassapa Lamar University - How Did You Parents React to You Becoming a Monk?
(Warning: music at the end)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I8mccDkOQyM

Ven. Dhammavuddho 9 - Attitude to parents
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lwPp1hYdNPI&feature=related

Ven. Dhammavuddho 10 - Leaving Home
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kacp54LBHQs&feature=related


:anjali: May you all be well and happy!
I'm not very good at right speech, although I try, so please guide and correct me if necessary so I don't make bad kamma for myself and cause others to be annoyed. (=
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