Ben wrote:In my experience the vast majority of kids I have had contact with, including my own, lie. I actually wonder whether its a developmental stage when kids learn to lie.
I think learning
to lie is a normal developmental stage - part of the process of discovering that other people are different from oneself and have different ideas in their heads - but settling into a habit of lying is not.
The child can usually be brought to realise that lying is usually unnecessary and sometimes hurtful and dangerous. Once that is achieved, s/he will be able to balance the costs and benefits of lying vs truth-telling in a normal adult way
and choose according to the situation.
As for stories, I have vague memories of Pinnocchio, and I'm sure there are 'teaching stories' amongst the European fairy tales, e.g. The Boy Who Cried 'Wolf!'