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Re: masturbation what's wrong?

Postby kmath » Wed Jan 22, 2014 9:08 pm

ricebowl wrote:
Ben wrote:
ricebowl wrote:Rahula needed to masturbate, Ananda needed a whore, how do you want these two young men back then to quarrel with a Buddha about it?


Really?
I suppose you have textual evidence of the above?
if so, please present it.
Thanks.

Without respect lost, answering a question with questions:

How do I have textual evidence of myself masturbating?
How do I have textual evidence of you masturbating?
How do I have textual evidence of them masturbating?
How do I have textual evidence of any living being in the world masturbating?
How do I have textual evidence of myself masturbating?

How do I have videographic evidence of myself masturbating?
How do I have videographic evidence of you masturbating?
How do I have videographic evidence of them masturbating?
How do I have videographic evidence of any living being in the world masturbating?
How do I have videographic evidence of myself masturbating?

Do I know a monetary transaction when I see it?
Do I know a sexual intercourse when I see it?
Do I know a social interaction when I see it?

Do I know exertion when I see it?
Do I see my own exertion?
Do I know infliction when I see it?
Do I see my own infliction?
Do I know satisfaction when I see it?
Do I see my own satisfaction?

Do I know erection when I see it?
Do I see my own erection?
Do I know masturbation when I see it?
Do I see my own masturbation?
Do I know satisfaction when I see it?
Do I see my own satisfaction?

Do I know expression when I see it?
Do I see my own expression?
Do I know affliction when I see it?
Do I see my own affliction?
Do I know satisfaction when I see it?
Do I see my own satisfaction?

The Buddha didn't seem particularly concerned whether I was masturbating or otherwise, and the who/what/when/where/why/how/which masturbation happens.
Likewise a lay follower such as "me" doesn't seem particularly concerned how others are masturbating or otherwise, and the who/what/when/where/why/how/which masturbation happens.

The point is I am taught asking questions because a question serves a purpose; "what did you had for breakfast this morning", I took a look at my faeces this morning and it was olive drab in colour, an amusing change in colour tones when it was regularly dark brown. I asked myself "what did i had for breakfast this morning" i realise i had taken vermicelli with popiah, vegan meat, some vegetables that included lettuce and cabbage iirc, now the thing is why do I remember this? There is this cause, there is this effect. Now bring in karma again, i do this i get that, i don't do this i don't get that, which is fine. I ate vegan, I pooped olive drab poop, on other days I ate poultry, I pooped dark brown faeces. I seem to be what I eat from my head to my feet, and when that happens I say wow I can see samsara and karma in a human being itself without having supernatural powress.

Now what's wrong with masturbation again?
Why does a forum administrator ask me about evidence of masturbation?
Now what's wrong with masturbation again?


What a strange, long-winded answer to such a simple question.
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Re: masturbation what's wrong?

Postby cooran » Wed Jan 22, 2014 11:46 pm

Hello Ricebowl,

You were asked to give Sutta quotations to back up your allegations agains the Arahants Rahula and Ananda of masturbation and using a prostitute.

Please do so.

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Re: masturbation what's wrong?

Postby convivium » Sun Feb 09, 2014 8:43 pm

i don't think right or wrong are particularly relevant to this question; i think this must be a western imputation. rather, i think observing effects of dukkha and tracing them to causes of tanha is more relevant. you know that pain is real by feeling a lot of it; you know that fire burns by putting your hand over it.
Just keep breathing in and out like this. Don't be interested in anything else. It doesn't matter even if someone is standing on their head with their ass in the air. Don't pay it any attention. Just stay with the in-breath and the out-breath. Concentrate your awareness on the breath. Just keep doing it. http://www.ajahnchah.org/book/Just_Do_It_1_2.php
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Re: masturbation what's wrong?

Postby daverupa » Tue Feb 11, 2014 6:42 pm

cooran wrote:Hello Ricebowl,

You were asked to give Sutta quotations to back up your allegations agains the Arahants Rahula and Ananda of masturbation and using a prostitute.

Please do so.

With metta,
Chris


Probably this is coming from the Śūraṅgama Sūtra, which I found discussed here.

SETTING

When Ananda was passing a brothel on his begging rounds...


Nothing that supports the claim, but here at least may be the cite. As was said, "...using it to teach an entire Mahayana Sutra..."
    "And how is it, bhikkhus, that by protecting oneself one protects others? By the pursuit, development, and cultivation of the four establishments of mindfulness. It is in such a way that by protecting oneself one protects others.

    "And how is it, bhikkhus, that by protecting others one protects oneself? By patience, harmlessness, goodwill, and sympathy. It is in such a way that by protecting others one protects oneself.
- Sedaka Sutta [SN 47.19]
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Re: masturbation what's wrong?

Postby kitztack » Tue Feb 11, 2014 7:00 pm

poor ricebowl disappeared after the post.... :shrug:
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Re: masturbation what's wrong?

Postby andyebarnes67 » Tue Feb 11, 2014 7:44 pm

I have only just come to this thread so I apologise if I am repeating someone else's thoughts. I did start reading the posts, but there are sooo many :tongue:
this is a question I have struggled with myself for a long time.
As a layman, i have however, intentionally remained single for some years and I do call myself 'celibate', although, as I say, masturbation is, let's say, a grey area.
The whole matter of whether celibacy includes total sexual abstension, or just relational sexual activity is itself one of contention.
I certainly don't consider masturbation a violation of the third precept, although errant fantasy, possibly.
My main reason for choosing to remain single is in order to give myself the best chance of developing my own non-attachment and since I don't have to 'restrain' myself (I'm actually happier single), I see no contradiction.
This brings me to my main point.
If one has to repress one's 'sexual needs' in order to adhere to an idea of what one should do, then this, itself, creates an attachment, perhaps more so, than simply jacking one off would do.
After a vipassana course I attended some years ago, an 18 year old student shared that he was very confused as he thought that he might not be able to ever have children if he made vipassana a part of his life.
It was explained to him, that it wasn't the partaking of, or even the enjoyment of, an act, but the attachment to it, that created dukkha.
I think there will perhaps come the time when I have moved nearer to enlightenment where the desire for physical gratification simply wouldn't arise anymore, and so, I would no longer masturbate, but for now at least, I have managed to not worry so much about it, having realised, as I have said, that the worry itself, was causing more dukkha than simply addressing the physical desire in as non-attached way as possible, would do.
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Re: masturbation what's wrong?

Postby convivium » Fri Feb 14, 2014 11:38 pm

what not masturbating as a rule does is gives you something to commit yourself to, namely, brahmacariya. but that's not limited to not orgasming at all so if that's what your commitming yourself to then there's no need to focus on that. all commitments are in an objective sense arbitrary. in a subjective sense perhaps the only source for genuine meaning.
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