It is a kind of feedback loop: emotion triggers memories and thoughts and these feed the emotion that then initiates more emotional memories and thoughts.
Calm either increased their anger or made them retreat without solving the problem, worsening their self-esteem.
Guy wrote:My greatest insight into emotions is that they are just emotions.

Anger comes from a strong sense of self, thinking "I am threatened" or "I need to show other people not to mess with ME" or something along those lines
and if we believe these thoughts and identify with them they will intensify the emotion.
As far as other people's anger is concerned, imo, the best reaction is no reaction. Reacting to anger makes the person feel they are right to be angry since they are getting their desired response.
It is a kind of feedback loop: emotion triggers memories and thoughts and these feed the emotion that then initiates more emotional memories and thoughts.
I agree. With mindfulness we can cut this off rather than reinforce it.

Calm either increased their anger or made them retreat without solving the problem, worsening their self-esteem.
This has not been my experience, I have found that being calm is the most useful technique in dealing with angry people.
Freawaru wrote:But they ARE right to be angry. When anger arises there is a cause that needs to be dealt with.
Freawaru wrote:It is similar to physical pain, the physical pain is a signal that something is wrong with the physical body, there is physical damage that needs attention, to be investigated, and possibly treated (different with chronic pains). When anger arises (not "chronic" anger) it is a signal that something survival or social is wrong and needs attention, investigation, and possibly treatment.
A physical aspect of anger is the increased alertness, pure strength, endurance and reaction time. The body clearly prepares for fight or flight. Physical pain is reduced. When I do not let go of the anger or do some sports I get painful tensions after three days of continual anger-altered mind (I only have a statistic of one regarding this, some years ago I kept my anger active during the whole wake time - got some interesting dreams, too - just to analyse the state. After three days my legs started to hurt so much I decided to end the experiment).
Off-hand, I can't think of any situation which is improved by an angry response.
It is a kind of feedback loop: emotion triggers memories and thoughts and these feed the emotion that then initiates more emotional memories and thoughts.

Freawaru wrote:Interesting. So very different results. Can you give an example or a typical situation and it's development?
Kim O'Hara wrote:Freawaru wrote:But they ARE right to be angry. When anger arises there is a cause that needs to be dealt with.
Huh?
Saying there is a cause for the arising of anger is no evidence that anger is a justifiable response, let alone the best response.
Off-hand, I can't think of any situation which is improved by an angry response.
Freawaru wrote:Anger is a mental and physical response to a situation. Just as hunger or thirst or pain. Instinct. ... Anger - just as other emotions like fear - are natural states of the mammal brain - are you suggesting that millions of years of evolution provided us with an unjustifiable instinct?
Freawaru wrote:Kim wrote:Off-hand, I can't think of any situation which is improved by an angry response.
During my teens I was sometimes dog-sitting to a neighbour....The adult pack could have bitten me, but it didn't. I was the alpha and I smelled of anger. They put their tail between their legs and followed me to their home.
Afterwards, people told me I had been insane to go between fighting dogs. But they had been my responsibility so I had to act. I don't think I had been in danger because I smelled of anger. If I had smelled of calm, or worse: of fear, they would have turned against me, but not as long as anger ran through my system. I am very grateful to this emotion as it can save lives.
effort wrote:A physical aspect of anger is the increased alertness, pure strength, endurance and reaction time. The body clearly prepares for fight or flight. Physical pain is reduced. When I do not let go of the anger or do some sports I get painful tensions after three days of continual anger-altered mind (I only have a statistic of one regarding this, some years ago I kept my anger active during the whole wake time - got some interesting dreams, too - just to analyse the state. After three days my legs started to hurt so much I decided to end the experiment).
what is that, shamanic practice?!
sometimes i need to show anger to say something is important for me unless people wont care, this is sad but things going this way.
honestly most of the times i stuck in that loop and getting pretty hopeless, its been a while that i try to just let it happen, if i can.
Patoda Sutta
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There is the case where a certain excellent thoroughbred person hears, 'In that town or village over there a man or woman is in pain or has died.' He is stirred & agitated by that.
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"Then again there is the case where a certain excellent thoroughbred person does not hear, 'In that town or village over there a man or woman is in pain or has died.' But he himself sees a man or woman in pain or dead. He is stirred & agitated by that. ...
http://www.accesstoinsight.org/tipitaka ... .than.html
Guy wrote:In one situation someone I used to live with asked me (actually it was more like yelling a request from another room in the house) to get them a beer, I just calmly said no because I don't drink - which they know already - and I'm not going to endorse anyone elses drinking in any way. A few seconds later they came to the room I was in and exploded with anger "I can't believe you won't do such a simple thing for me after everything I do for you! you are so selfish and lazy! rah rah rah rah" - I didn't even raise an objection, I remained calm and silent. After drinking his beer and realizing how inappropriate his behaviour was he came back and apologized.
Obviously there are many factors involved (e.g. how well you know the person, what kind of personality they have, whether or not you consider them potentially dangerous, etc.) as to the best way to respond
but I am pretty sure that being calm is the best place to start from. If you start from a state of inner-calm
then it gives you the ability to think clearly which you don't have when you get angry back and also there is the chance that it will confuse the person because it's not the reaction they expected. Confusion is great because it causes the person to snap out of their angry self-hypnosis and maybe see things a different way.
christopher::: wrote:Great discussion topic and opening post.

Kim O'Hara wrote:[
You appear to have no doubt that anger is an instinct, but that call seems unjustified to me.
The instincts you mention (hunger, thirst, pain) are common to all people - and to all sentient beings, as far as we know.
They are consistently triggered by similar environmental stresses.
People do not believe that experiencing them is morally reprehensible.
They are not thought of as obstacles to spiritual development.
Anger is unlike those instincts on all these points. As far as I can see, calling it an instinct is either a mistake or a cop-out - though I would be interested to see any good reason you may have for doing so.
That's an interesting story but (1) it's hardly an everyday occurrence,
(2) you may very easily be misinterpreting the dogs' behaviour,
and (3) even it you are right about the dogs, it was a single isolated incident where anger had a positive result and has to be balanced against all the negative results of anger.
Freawaru wrote:Kim wrote:They are not thought of as obstacles to spiritual development.
Neither are emotions. I mean, okay, fear is considered as akusala and fearlessness as kusala but this only points to sampajanna, IMO.
Freawaru wrote:From a scientific point of view there are the physical and neurological changes during emotions. Fear produces certain changes, anger others, jealousy others again. One can find those in humans as well as in other social mammals. This is why I call them instinct.
My other reason is my own direct observation: fear leads to certain changes, anger to others, mother instinct to some changes, ideology (it is an instinct, too, in my observation, usually activated in the late teens, early twens), survival, social status (low social status can have it's use, too, just read an article on that) and so on. They are all rather interesting to investigate while observing one's own mind processes.
Instinct is the inherent disposition of a living organism toward a particular behavior. The fixed action patterns are unlearned and inherited. The stimuli can be variable due to imprinting in a sensitive period or also genetically fixed. Examples of instinctual fixed action patterns can be observed in the behavior of animals, which perform various activities (sometimes complex) that are not based upon prior experience, such as reproduction, and feeding among insects. Sea turtles, hatched on a beach, automatically move toward the ocean, and honeybees communicate by dance the direction of a food source, all without formal instruction. Other examples include animal fighting, animal courtship behavior, internal escape functions, and building of nests. Another term for the same concept is innate behavior.
Instinctual actions - in contrast to actions based on learning which are served by memory and which provide individually stored successful reactions built upon experience - have no learning curve, they are hard-wired and ready to use without learning. Some instinctual behaviors depend on maturational processes to appear.
Biological predispositions are innate biologically vectored behaviors that can be easily learned. For example in one hour a baby colt can learn to stand, walk, glide, skip, hop and run. Learning is required to fine tune the neurological wiring reflex like behavior. True reflexes can be distinguished from instincts by their seat in the nervous system; reflexes are controlled by spinal or other peripheral ganglia, but instincts are the province of the brain.
Freawaru wrote:This is right, but even a Vulcan with unsurpassable logic has to admit that it only takes one fact to make statements like "in general experiencing anger is wrong" incorrect.
Kim O'Hara wrote:You have made it hard for me to comment on your responses to my post by picking it into chunks that are often too small to be meaningful, so I'll start half way through.
Kim wrote:May I remind you ...
Three Hindrances aka Three Obstacles:
Aversion aka Anger aka Hatred
Attachment aka Greed aka Desire
Ignorance
Pleasant feeling induces greed...
Painful feeling produces hate...
Neither-painful-nor-pleasant neutral feeling
causes neglect & thus generates ignorance...
http://what-buddha-said.net/drops/II/Bo ... eeling.htm
You are expanding the word 'instinct' far beyond its real meaning.
I objected - mildly - to calling anger and other emotions 'instincts' before, but calling ideology an instinct makes nonsense of your argument.
Here's the Wikipedia definition:Instinct is the inherent disposition of a living organism toward a particular behavior. The fixed action patterns are unlearned and inherited. The stimuli can be variable due to imprinting in a sensitive period or also genetically fixed. Examples of instinctual fixed action patterns can be observed in the behavior of animals, which perform various activities (sometimes complex) that are not based upon prior experience, such as reproduction, and feeding among insects. Sea turtles, hatched on a beach, automatically move toward the ocean, and honeybees communicate by dance the direction of a food source, all without formal instruction. Other examples include animal fighting, animal courtship behavior, internal escape functions, and building of nests. Another term for the same concept is innate behavior.
Instinctual actions - in contrast to actions based on learning which are served by memory and which provide individually stored successful reactions built upon experience - have no learning curve, they are hard-wired and ready to use without learning. Some instinctual behaviors depend on maturational processes to appear.
Biological predispositions are innate biologically vectored behaviors that can be easily learned. For example in one hour a baby colt can learn to stand, walk, glide, skip, hop and run. Learning is required to fine tune the neurological wiring reflex like behavior. True reflexes can be distinguished from instincts by their seat in the nervous system; reflexes are controlled by spinal or other peripheral ganglia, but instincts are the province of the brain.
In these terms, hunger and pain are simply sensations, emotions are perhaps 'biological predispositions', the suckling reflex is an instinct, and ideology is clearly learned behaviour.
I agree that it's interesting to observe all of these kinds of things going on within ourselves, but I think we need to discriminate more carefully between them.
There is a separate problem with trying to deal with 'instinct' in a Buddhist context: it is a concept which does not appear at all (AFAIK) in the suttas. I actually did a search for the term (only in the suttas) on Access to Insight and came with no results - zero - in about 1100 documents.
Freawaru wrote:This is right, but even a Vulcan with unsurpassable logic has to admit that it only takes one fact to make statements like "in general experiencing anger is wrong" incorrect.
I'm sorry, but that is a clear error of logic - "in general experiencing anger is wrong" can only be disproven by a majority, or at least a significant minority, of countervailing facts. (In general, crows are black, and that's true even if there are a few albino crows around.)
I actually must have expressed myself poorly, by the way, since you ended up thinking I said 'experiencing anger is wrong.' I didn't quite say it, and I didn't quite mean it, and I'm sorry that I may have led you astray. Giving in to anger, letting it rule one's behaviour, is what is wrong.
Freawaru wrote:Hi All,
there is something else I want to ask regarding meditating on emotions. Another kind of experience I experienced both in every-day situation as well as during sittings.
The experience is that I observe my mind and body during the emotionally altered state but in addition something else, seemingly unrelated is happening in my mind. I mean, unrelated to the external situation and the emotional processes, but still somewhat connected. Or, using an analogy, if we compare the emotional processes in mind and body as the drums/rhythm in music the "something else" is like a melody, not related but not completely disconnected either. This "something else" or the "melody" can differ, it can be intense boredom, or joy, amusement, bliss, physical ecstasy of the kind I only know from jhana, a vast empty space, or the experience of a heart bursting impression of beauty (and some others I don't know the words for).
I am not yet quite sure what exactly happens or why and how. I suspect that the concentration that arises due to the emotion in combination with me observing it somehow triggers this - in any case I would like to know more about this strange and unexpected effect.
Has anybody else experienced this or heard about it or knows the name of these kind of experiences in Theravada?

rowyourboat wrote:Hi Freewaru
It does seem you may be missing a part of the practice:
"One tries to abandon wrong view & to enter into right view: This is one's right effort. One is mindful to abandon wrong view & to enter & remain in right view: This is one's right mindfulness. Thus these three qualities — right view, right effort, & right mindfulness — run & circle around right view.
http://www.accesstoinsight.org/tipitaka ... .than.html
"Clear knowing is the leader in the attainment of skillful qualities, followed by conscience & concern. In a knowledgeable person, immersed in clear knowing, right view arises.
http://www.accesstoinsight.org/tipitaka ... .than.html
Right view as you know is the first step of the Noble Eightfold Path- everything follows on from that, as per the Mahacattasarika sutta. The idea that aversion (the broader umbrella term under which anger falls under -dosa, patigha call it what you will) is to be abandoned is rooted in this right view- under kamma (roots), under rebirth (causes), under devas (and how not to get get there) under the idea that enlightenment is to be had (what is to be abandoned).
"He doesn't assume consciousness to be the self, or the self as possessing consciousness, or consciousness as in the self, or the self as in consciousness. His consciousness changes & is unstable, but his consciousness doesn't — because of the change & instability of consciousness — alter in accordance with the change in consciousness. His mind is not consumed with any agitations born from an alteration in accordance with the change in consciousness or coming from the co-arising of (unskillful mental) qualities. And because his awareness is not consumed, he feels neither fearful, threatened, nor solicitous.
http://www.accesstoinsight.org/tipitaka ... .than.html
This was said by the Blessed One, said by the Arahant, so I have heard: "Abandon one quality, monks, and I guarantee you non-return. Which one quality? Abandon aversion as the one quality, and I guarantee you non-return."
http://www.accesstoinsight.org/tipitaka ... ml#iti-001
Anger is IMO an instinct- but as all instincts go they are useful in animals that lack higher brain function- (call it panna) because it provides automatic motivation- you dont have to think. However in human beings this function is now outdated - and indeed superfluous. The instinct to eat and store food now creates vast amounts of suffering and obesity for example- better to use your thinking brain. A person who worries to get things done will think that worrying is essential- but the person who gets things done without worry knows that it is not. Similarly a person who gets angry will think that it is essential- but it is not. In fact all these instincts/emotions get in the way of panna and the quest for Buddhist enlightenment.
Another way of looking at Right view is using the four noble truths- The first being that five aggregate (ie- read everything) is unsatisfactory- hence nibbana is the only ultimately worthwhile goal.
christopher::: wrote:
Hi Freawaru,
Have you had the chance to talk with a teacher or advanced practitioner about this?
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