the partnership of a friend of mine just ended a few weeks ago. She was dumped in a rather harsh manner by him without giving any reason. While she still has quite a hard time, i try to cheer her up in several ways: I offer to hang out with her to have a good time, i listen to her thoughts and i gently encourage her to gain a quite positive attitude towards things.
I can see how helpful the teachings of the Buddha have been here for me and her in this situation. It is more helpful to stay in the present and not get caught in thoughts about the past. She's slowly coming to a point where she can look forward again and i welcome that
However, skillful speech is sometimes difficult here. I don't want to talk in a divisive manner (which i don't) - i don't tell her that anger or towards her ex-boyfriend is good - i rather try to raise understanding for him and that he's just a person who does mistakes like everyone else.
And that's a point: I don't feel like her mind might be open for this kind of skillful speech yet - I think quite often people just want to hear something like "oh yes, your anger is totally justified and he is really the bad guy you think he is." - It's these situation where i prefer just not to talk at all. Because if in doubt - "just don't".
Maybe you know these situations and can tell me what you tend to say. Do you tell friends when their thoughts are going to an unskillful direction or do you just leave it at that?