These are good questions!
Clarence wrote:Do you still love each other?
Yes, but definitely not in the way it was before. We matured, and also our religious differences are weighting heavily in the balance.
Even if I still wish good to her, I have to admit I don't feel emotionally tied to her anymore.
Clarence wrote:When you married, were you Buddhist and she Christian?
Yes and yes, but we were both not very engaged in our respective religions. She still tried to convert me very early on. I refused and we still managed to get over it and stay together. I was too young, inexperiences and in love to hear the alarm bells!
Clarence wrote:Do you think this is only a phase where she will eventually grow out of?
I hoped it was a phase, but it's 2 years now, and I can't see her growing out of that. She has some pre-dispositions, in the sense that she always tended to trust her instincts without checking the facts or had strong opinions on anything included fields she knew nothing about.
I don't see her investigating or questionning her beliefs any time soon. These people subconsciously try everything they can to ignore facts that go against their beliefs; psychologically, it's a question of life and death (death of the ego in that case). Questioning themselves or doubting would deny their "born-again" experience and thus would be a sure gateway to Hell!
Clarence wrote:Do you think she might have a brain injury or other sort of problem that could cause this?
No, unless she didn't tell me. I will ask her.
Clarence wrote:Have you tried counseling or any form of therapy, either alone or together?
No. I am quite sure she would accept only Christian counselling/therapy, and only from a born-again Christian on top of that. For example, she is currently trying to find a solicitor to help her on a business issue, and she only wants a Christian solicitor... Once I suggested to switch our broadband to 'Zen internet', she said she didn't like the name!! (because it was buddhist, obviously)
Clarence wrote:Why would you not just divorce instead of staying with her?
Good point! I am worried about the well-being of our daughter. But to be frank, I considered divorce quite a few times already.
Clarence wrote:What level of fundamentalism would you be able to live with?
None, pretty much. I am not sure that there are "levels" in fundamentalism... Be it Christian, Muslim or whatever, fundamentalism means shutting down your brain and litteral interpretation of the sacred, infaillible scriptures.
Clarence wrote:Sorry to ask you so many questions but I think they might give some clarity and that way we will be better able to advice (however much that is worth) you.
Thank you very much for asking these questions! That also helps me see things a bit more clearly.
And I definitely welcome any advice, opinions and external points of view!