dating a girl of 18 when i am 22

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dating a girl of 18 when i am 22

Postby mario92 » Tue Jun 24, 2014 1:04 am

Hi have a question, i dont know if i should date a girl of 18, 4 years lesser than me, im 22, so is it a bad idea do take her to a movie or something like that? i say it because in one sutta the buddha explain that having a partner more young can be a cause of downfall because of jealousy. Can you explain me how and what cases are in this explanation?

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Re: dating a girl of 18 when i am 22

Postby robertk » Tue Jun 24, 2014 3:28 am

The Buddha explained a very old man takes a young woman (or women ) as consort/s but then worries that they might be ah, 'playing around' behind his back with younger cabelleros. The worry will cause him grief.

So the question is whether an ageing Romeo like you has the confidence to compete against the young studs..
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Re: dating a girl of 18 when i am 22

Postby Reductor » Tue Jun 24, 2014 5:15 am

You should never, ever date a woman who is more than a week younger than you are.


I'm joking. If the two of you appear equal or similar in age and beauty, there isn't much reason to worry (except for the usual romantic troubles of course).
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Re: dating a girl of 18 when i am 22

Postby Bhikkhu Pesala » Tue Jun 24, 2014 5:48 am

The Parabhava Sutta says:
20. A person past his youth takes as wife, a girl in her teens, and sleeps not being jealous of her — this is the cause of his downfall.

You are not past your youth — not by a long way. Perhaps if you were 30 the age difference might be too much.
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Re: dating a girl of 18 when i am 22

Postby mario92 » Tue Jun 24, 2014 1:30 pm

thank you bhikkhu pesala, thank you also reductor and robertk :) :tongue:
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