I highly recommend checking out Bhante Gunaratana's book Beyond Mindfulness in Plain English.
It can be read online in part here:http://books.google.com/books?id=UGzTsK ... ks_s&cad=1
And purchased here:http://www.wisdompubs.org/Pages/display ... n=&image=1
In this book Bhante G says that yes it is possible for meditators to reach jhana while living the household life provided certain conditions are met first; maintaining the precepts, practicing contentment, sense restraint and meditating AT LEAST two hours daily. Hope this helps get you started.
“What should be done for his disciples out of compassion by a teacher who seeks their welfare and has compassion for them, that I have done for you, bhikkhus. There are these roots of trees, these empty huts. Meditate, bhikkhus, do not delay or else you will regret it later. This is our instruction to you.” - MN 19