Listening to someone and being mindful

[Dmytro]

Hi Purple Planet,

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AhDsCFhDM_I&feature=relmfu

Thanks for the link!

how to be mindful while listening to someone and to actually listen to him and not just saying in the head "hearing hearing hearing .... "

You may find useful Gregory Kramer's guidelines:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yvdkH-gXZCk
http://metta.org/insight-dialogue-3/ins ... uidelines/
http://secularbuddhism.org/2012/07/05/e ... -dialogue/

[xtracorrupt]

I guess this question was asked a million times in different ways but i never got the answer -

i remembered it watching this video

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AhDsCFhD ... ure=relmfu

that got the sound removed from it and i was thinking : noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo !!!

so the question is : how to be mindful while listening to someone and to actually listen to him and not just saying in the head "hearing hearing hearing .... "

When that someone has something useful to say eg. Dhamma talk, you pay attention to what he is saying.

But if that person has nothing useful to say eg. hurling abuse, useless chatter, making hateful speeches etc use "hearing ...."
In this way unwholesome thinking is not allowed to develop.

I don't think this mindset of concentration is able to just happen but I think i can be developed. I think what your explaining is part of rightful concentration.