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Death and Meditation

Postby AlaskanDhamma » Tue Mar 10, 2009 9:12 pm

Hello all.

I need a bit of help. My grandmother just passed away recently and I'm going through a grieving time right now. I've been trying to remain positive, knowing that my grandmother is now re-entering the khammic cycle and has moved on from her physical state of suffering in this life. However, it's still a bit difficult to deal with mentally and emotionally and especially spiritually. I was wondering when I go to meditation today and over the next few weeks, what should I be meditating about? Is there something to focus on that will help me to not be attached to the idea of her death? I know that sometimes monks even meditate inside of crematories to better understand death. Can anyone give some suggestions?

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Re: Death and Meditation

Postby Ben » Tue Mar 10, 2009 9:26 pm

Hi Julia

I am going through grief myself right now. Unless you are given instruction from your meditation teacher, I recommend that you continue with your usual object of meditation. I also recommend that you incorporate metta bhavana as an adjunct. In the past I have found that spending some time per day practicing metta, on top of my vipassana practice, has eased my grief.
I am sorry for your loss and I wish you all the best.

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Re: Death and Meditation

Postby AlaskanDhamma » Tue Mar 10, 2009 9:47 pm

Ben,

Thank you for your well wishes and advice. I think I'll try that.
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Re: Death and Meditation

Postby clw_uk » Tue Mar 10, 2009 10:30 pm

My advice would to just be mindful of what your feeling, investigate why and reflect, why is it you grieve?

grief can be used as a very skilful means for insight, i would also recomend the metta meditation as well


However this is just my advice, decide what feels right for you to do, you know best


Hope your Dukkha sucums to its Anicca soon


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Re: Death and Meditation

Postby Rui Sousa » Tue Mar 10, 2009 10:37 pm

I agree with Ben, continue your usual practice and, if you don't do it already, add some Metta practice.

My grandmother died two years ago, and during a few days after her departure I did Metta a lot, wishing her to have an happy rebirth with the good fortune of having caring parents.
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Re: Death and Meditation

Postby retrofuturist » Tue Mar 10, 2009 10:50 pm

Greetings AlaskanDhamma,

I recommend...

Sn 3.8 - Salla Sutta (The Arrow)
http://www.accesstoinsight.org/tipitaka ... .irel.html

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Re: Death and Meditation

Postby jcsuperstar » Wed Mar 11, 2009 1:55 am

i'm sorry
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Re: Death and Meditation

Postby Cittasanto » Wed Mar 11, 2009 7:02 am

I am sorry for your loss, I know the pain of loosing a loved one. once I was ready I found relaxing when I noticed my mindfulness lapse then going back to the object.
This offering maybe right, or wrong, but it is one, the other, both, or neither!
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Re: Death and Meditation

Postby phil » Wed Mar 11, 2009 7:22 am

First of all, hello Julia, very sorry for your loss. I am sure your meditation practice will bring you peace, wisdom or best of all both to help you deal with your grieving.

retrofuturist wrote:Greetings AlaskanDhamma,

I recommend...

Sn 3.8 - Salla Sutta (The Arrow)http://www.accesstoinsight.org/tipitaka/kn/snp/snp.3.08.irel.html

Metta,
Retro. :)


Thanks for this sutta, Retro. I don't know how I missed it before.

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