Right speech is not always saying what people want to hear. First and foremost, right speech is honest and truthful speech. Often people don't want to hear the truth and it offends and hurts their feelings. That is not the fault of the person telling it...that is just the way it is. This does not mean that the truth should not be expressed. Disillusionment is the doorway to enlightenment. If you are suffering from delusions, then hearing the truth may set you free. There is no good reason to be politically correct about your expressions of the truth so long as those expressions are intent on being truthful and using that truth for the good of those you hope will hear it. Just say what needs to be said and walk away...it will resonate in the mind of the hearer and possibly, without your knowledge, change something within them for the good. The truth is always the greatest compassion. The reaction of the hearer is not your sole responsibility...a person's reactions are also their responsibility, completely within their realm of control and there is nothing you can do about that except be as gentle in you expression as possible. After that, it's out of your hands. You can only control yourself, not others. You can only take so much to heart. Its better to say what needs to be said no matter the risks to peoples sensibilities, IMNSHO. It's a judgement call...but it's not that difficult if your loyalty is to the truth. Either way, you do what you think is right, and you live with the consequences...and things almost never turn out the way you would like them to, especially when it comes to people...and so be it. Accept it...do what needs to be done. There is no sense in walking around on eggshells uncomfortable about saying what you know to be true.
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