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Re: Open invitation: Help us improve your DW experience!

Postby mikenz66 » Wed Mar 02, 2011 5:19 am

Hi Jhana4,

Unfortunately, the software we are using here doesn't seem to do any kind of notification automatically, and if things are moved around a bit as Ben indicated, or if some posts are deleted, it's quite time consuming to notify all of the interested parties. Sorry the service is not always as slick as it should be...

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Postby Jechbi » Wed Mar 02, 2011 6:19 am

I truly believe that if I had created suggestion-box entries with my concerns, they would have been made invisible, and I would have received warnings from the mods not to do that again. Folks reading this thread have no idea what went on behind the scenes. Some of the responses I received from the mod/admin team were very inflamatory.

I created the blog because I was shut down here again and again. I wanted to have a place where I could put a legitimate post and make it visible if it was taken down. And I wanted a place where other people could do the same thing, if they faced the same problems I encountered. It's effortless to create a blog these days, so it was a matter of just a few minutes to set it up and post it. And voila, there was my post that Dhamma Wheel had made invisible.

The other entries on my blog are straightforward and frankly not that negative for the most part. Generally I start with a broader issue, then I may give an example from Dhamma Wheel or elsewhere to illustrate the problem. The blog became negative mostly as a result of the overwhelmingly hostile and personal responses that were posted there by others. Take a look and you'll see what I mean. I tried to meet every insult, every accusation, with an attitude of friendship and gratitude.

I did make some negative posts. The most negative posts I made were in response to the shocking responses I received from the Dhamma Wheel mod/admin team after creating the blog. I'm blown away by what has happened. Perhaps most damaging was a public reference to me, by name, on another forum. The contents of that reference, including name-calling, are far more negative than anything I said about anybody. And that reference continues to show up in Google searches and probably will stay there indefinitely. I have been forced to monitor Google references to me to try to control the damage that has been inflicted as a result of the responses to my blog.

Somebody here suggested I grow a pair. Please know that I'm a real person, a father with children, in a professional position, who has faced far more difficult circumstances than this. For example, one of my children spent months in the hospital on one occasion. Any parent who has almost lost a child, or who has lost one, can understand that kind of challenge. This entire Dhamma Wheel matter is minor, downright trivial, compared to other things in life. I'm not losing my perspective about it. The suggestion keeps on coming up that I should just drop it, just go away, just stop, move on. I am doing that every moment, one moment at a time. I don't understand why we can't treat each other with respect and with an attitude of friendship.

Personally, I think any member should feel free to blog if they want to, and I think Dhamma Wheel, as the most-visited Buddhism discussion board, is a fit topic for a blog. And if a blog contains criticism, then what's the big deal? That's part of what blogs are sometimes about. I have acknowledged openly on that blog that I need to do a better job of avoiding negativity. If you happen to visit the blog please help me to achieve that goal by not adding to the negativity.

I'm not sure I want to go adding to the suggestion box right now. Given the situation, I don't think there's much that I can say, positive or negative, that will be helpful.

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Re: Open invitation: Help us improve your DW experience!

Postby Wizard in the Forest » Wed Mar 02, 2011 6:22 am

It's okay, Brother Jechbi, let it go. I understand to a degree your frustrations, and the Mods have agreed to listen and opened the option to criticize them openly in the suggestion box. If you no longer have the desire to, then maybe perhaps the need you had before to be heard has been fulfilled. :anjali: You're freer now, yes?
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Postby christopher::: » Wed Mar 02, 2011 6:46 am

"As Buddhists, we should aim to develop relationships that are not predominated by grasping and clinging. Our relationships should be characterised by the brahmaviharas of metta (loving kindness), mudita (sympathetic joy), karuna (compassion), and upekkha (equanimity)."
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Re: Open invitation: Help us improve your DW experience!

Postby retrofuturist » Wed Mar 02, 2011 7:18 am

Greetings Jechbi,

Clearly you feel there are grievances unresolved about how things work here - would it help you to frame each as a suggestion in the Suggestion Box?

We can all work them through, one at a time. It is still "healthy, collaborative Dhamma discussion" you're after isn't it? If so, here's your chance.

Sure beats throwing stones from over the fence, doesn't it? :thumbsup:

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Re: Open invitation: Help us improve your DW experience!

Postby PeterB » Wed Mar 02, 2011 8:16 am

I find it fascinating that if we put Jechbi's and the mods' posts to one side..the main inpout on this thread is from two non Theravadins and one person who is uninterested in the Suttas.

Very revealing all round.

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Postby Annapurna » Wed Mar 02, 2011 8:34 am

Dear all, Jechbi, Tilt,

what makes me happy is that you are all COMMUNICATING!

And, that the conversation is taking place here again, and so civilized!

This is an outstanding process and success, that I am happy to witness.

I am sure that if you keep up your efforts to remove all past bitterness from your minds, by talking to each other and by UNDERSTANDING each other, you will be able to create very auspicious conditions for the future.

And, to add something personal:

I too had issues here at times. I am easily hurt by any harshness I may receive or imagine to receive, and I have usually had the strenght to go to somebody with it, and I am very happy to say that I always found open arms to do so.

Maybe this is a poetic way to describe online conversations, but hey, I am an artist, and a female, which ALSO makes it easier to communicate with the male leadership here.

It may be much harder amongst men....

I'm grateful for the considerate replies I am receiving after showing my pain, and you're all in my heart.

Thank you.

May it happen for everybody here!
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Re: Open invitation: Help us improve your DW experience!

Postby Annapurna » Thu Mar 03, 2011 10:37 am

And you taught me a new word:

"Phrasing".

Thank you. :smile:
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Re: Open invitation: Help us improve your DW experience!

Postby appicchato » Thu Mar 03, 2011 10:57 am

I guess it comes with the territory...Dhamma Wheel. since it's inception, rolled along really well, 2010 was a good year...now, however, the bickering has come out of the woodwork (not only from one side)...if I were asked, I'd say give it a rest...nothing good, seen from this angle, is to be gained going forward from this point...just one person's observation, and feeling, I imagine, that's all...six months down the pike, will it really matter?...hopefully not...

Be well.. :popcorn:
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Re: Open invitation: Help us improve your DW experience!

Postby Annapurna » Thu Mar 03, 2011 11:00 am

I just thought the same.

How about giving it a breather for 4 weeks?
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Re: Open invitation: Help us improve your DW experience!

Postby tiltbillings » Thu Mar 03, 2011 2:03 pm

It will pass.

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Re: Open invitation: Help us improve your DW experience!

Postby Annapurna » Thu Mar 03, 2011 2:19 pm

Something I need to say:

It's super that DW encourages such an open discussion! :heart:
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