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a couple questions

Postby thatoneguy » Thu Mar 31, 2011 12:04 am

hi
i am just exploring the buddhist faith, i don't really know much about it but i do have a couple questions about differing oppinions. i am wondering about arrogance according to the buddhist faith, and since i am not really experienced in the teachings, i feel i do not use much tact when i am discussing religion in general. i seem to have some anger towards anybody who thinks they have all the answers and criticize the many spiritual traditions of the world including people who think there is no place for a spiritual life or people who think they are the one and only key to a spiritual life. so i guess what i am asking is this: am i arrogant in my thinking if i am just exploring buddhism and call myself a buddhist and also what is the proper way to deal with arrogance in other people who criticize things they do not understand. i hope my questions make sense thanks for any input, and i am sorry if i have wasted your time.

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Re: a couple questions

Postby Ben » Thu Mar 31, 2011 12:52 am

“No lists of things to be done. The day providential to itself. The hour. There is no later. This is later. All things of grace and beauty such that one holds them to one's heart have a common provenance in pain. Their birth in grief and ashes.”
- Cormac McCarthy, The Road

Learn this from the waters:
in mountain clefts and chasms,
loud gush the streamlets,
but great rivers flow silently.
- Sutta Nipata 3.725

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Re: a couple questions

Postby thatoneguy » Thu Mar 31, 2011 1:49 am

thank you for you insights
this is what i pretty much get from all my friends and family. the fact that i have to commit myself to really understanding what i am claiming to be. and it would be for the best to commit myself to a more deep understanding and pracitice of the teachings of the buddha. and i really do have a deep desire to actually commit myself to buddhist understanding despite the voice of my mother in the back of my head that keeps telling me that i was raised a christian (although i never really was). and i know that if i don't actually live a right life according to the dhamma i really have no claim to calling myself a buddhist.

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Re: a couple questions

Postby Fede » Thu Mar 31, 2011 1:04 pm

Panna - Wisdom - also covers the benign quality of 'Acceptance'.

Acceptance that religions form the bedrock of different people, in different cultures in different ways, and that people, under the banner of their chosen religion, can either -

Be easy-going, relaxed individuals with a generous nature, a kind disposition and a quiet dedication to accomplishing the task in hand and responding lovingly to their calling in dealing with others,

- or -

Can be hard-lined, insistent, aggressive, zealous, over-bearing, fanatical extremists believing for whatever reasons they may have, that they are right, and everyone else is wrong, lost, misguided, condemned to eternal damnation and the devil's spawn.

The Buddha encouraged us to consort with the Wise, and to shun Fools.
People in the former camp, even if they hold different views to yours, can be great companions on the path, and teach us much about what they believe, and about ourselves and our views too.
People in the latter camp - are best avoided.

I would further suggest that whatever calling you choose to follow, you decide which camp you'd prefer to be in. :smile:


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Re: a couple questions

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Re: a couple questions

Postby rowyourboat » Fri Apr 01, 2011 9:27 am

People clash over beliefs and views, rather than practices. BE Buddhist rather than say you are or pit your views against theirs. We can appreciate their charitable side as well.

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Re: a couple questions

Postby unspoken » Sun Apr 03, 2011 4:53 am

If you really experienced it, you really KNOW the truth about the topic you arguing or debating about, and they refuse to accept your facts and ideas. Then what you can do is, wish them well and happy. Thinking now he suffer from delusions, hope that he/she will be much wiser, not to fall into some never-ending sufferings caused by confusions and delusions. If they do not accept, then do not tell them. Learn to live the path of the wise, tell when they wanted to listen.

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Re: a couple questions

Postby thatoneguy » Mon Apr 04, 2011 6:15 am

um, hi i just want to ask one more question to anybody still replying to this topic just for claryfication. is it just a fact of life that since i'm still pretty young that i still have much to learn and also is it still considered unskilled ,if, when i get angry at people who i feel to be "arogant", the most i do is maybe get worked up in discussion with friends about my feelings. i guess what i'm trying to say is if i make sure to not get in any major conflicts with those whom i disagree, even though i may have strong feelings against "arogant" people, is it still a hinderance in my life according to buddhist teachings. i hope that my question makes sense. thank you for any insights you may have lend me.

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Re: a couple questions

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Re: a couple questions

Postby Fede » Mon Apr 04, 2011 8:40 am

"Samsara: The human condition's heartbreaking inability to sustain contentment." Elizabeth Gilbert, 'Eat, Pray, Love'.

Simplify: 17 into 1 WILL go: Mindfulness!

Quieta movere magna merces videbatur. (Sallust, c.86-c.35 BC)
Translation: Just to stir things up seemed a good reward in itself. ;)

I am sooooo happy - How on earth could I be otherwise?! :D


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Re: a couple questions

Postby unspoken » Mon Apr 04, 2011 2:35 pm

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