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The Blessed One saw Ven. Pindola Bharadvaja sitting not far away, his legs crossed, his body held erect — a forest dweller, an alms-goer, a rag-robe wearer, an owner of only one set of three robes, modest, content, solitary, unentangled, his persistence aroused, an advocate of the ascetic practices, devoted to the heightened mind.
"... I myself, good Bhaaradvaaja, whenever I enter the inner parts of my palace[3] with body, speech and mind unguarded, with mindfulness unestablished, with sense-faculties uncontrolled, am at such times overcome with lustful thoughts. But when I do so with body, speech and mind guarded, with mindfulness established, with faculties controlled, then lustful thoughts do not overcome me."
mikenz66 wrote:Hi Kevin,
I understood new monks are generally encouraged to do that asubha meditation. Was that the case for you? I remember some Dhamma talk (probably from Ajahn Brahm) where he said he felt sorry for the Catholic monks he met who were expected to be celibate without the tools (such as in this Sutta) that he and other Buddhist monks had at their disposal.
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Mike
mikenz66 wrote:"Great King, this was said by the Blessed One ...
"Come Bhikkhus, towards women old enough to be your mother set up the idea that they are your mother; towards those of an age to be your sisters set up the idea that they are your sisters; towards those young enough to be your daughters set up the idea that they are your daughters."
BB: Literally, "Set up a mother-mind towards those of a mother-measure", etc.
Spk says that one's mother, sisters, and daughters are the three "respected objects" (garukarammana) who are not to be transgressed against.
Interestingly, this saying, though ascribed to the Buddha as if it were a common piece of advice, is not found elsewhere in the Nikayas.
The latter is an interesting observation, since this is certainly a technique that I've heard mentioned by monastic teachers. I don't have daughters, but it's natural, and I think useful, to view my students as if they were daughters (or sons!).
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23. Then the Venerable Ananda said to the Blessed One: "How, Lord, should we conduct ourselves towards women?"
"Do not see them, Ananda."
"But, Lord, if we do see them?"
"Do not speak, Ananda."
"But, Lord, if they should speak to us?"
"Then, Ananda, you should establish mindfulness."
On seeing a form with the eye, do not grasp at any theme or variations by which — if you were to dwell without restraint over the faculty of the eye — evil, unskillful qualities such as greed or distress might assail you.
Ven. Maha Moggallana said, "And how is one soggy? There is the case where a monk, when seeing a form via the eye, is, in the case of pleasing forms, committed to forms and, in the case of displeasing forms, afflicted by forms. He remains with body-mindfulness not present, and with limited awareness. And he does not discern, as it actually is present, the awareness-release & discernment-release where those evil, unskillful qualities that have arisen cease without trace.
paul wrote: The Buddha's suggestion regarding seeing women like mothers and daughters draws the mind away from the conventional ego-centered reality to the path of expansive ultimate reality. That understanding must be gradually learnt as the Dhammapada says, like refining the dross from silver.
On seeing a form with the eye, do not grasp at any theme or variations by which — if you were to dwell without restraint over the faculty of the eye — evil, unskillful qualities such as greed or distress might assail you.
daverupa wrote:I fundamentally agree that seeing the attractive gender in a 'bio-relational' way is helpful in this respect.
I would like to use this opportunity to emphasize that the Dhamma is a pro-active process of applying wholesome feeling (the four immeasurables, ultimately) to the Path; when this done, Dhamma practice greatly benefits.
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