Hi Future Bhikkhu,
may I respectfully suggest that this question be directed exclusively towards those without
young children. Those of us with lil ones - who are not only physically
dependent on us, but also emotionally
dependent - would be performing a selfish act to just 'up and leave'. This would not only hurt them in the short term, but quite possibly make them averse to Buddhism in the long-term. (Before anyone invokes the action taken by the Bodhisatta in this regard - please note - I'm not
the Bodhisatta! Plus it's a different time and place...back then, perhaps fathers were often not so involved in the day-to-day rearing of younger children (?) - plus there would have been extended family around to make up for Siddhatta's absence...totally different situation for me right now, I'm needed on all
When my dear lil ones are older (maybe both in their late teens?), and only if my ex is able to manage with them on her own - then I would consider it.
When they have fully grown up and are independent, however - I will seek out an appropriate monastery willing to accept a novice who by then will be 52 years old (I'm now 42). I hope to be still physically able (for sweeping, cleaning etc), and hopefully debt-free!
In the meantime, however, I don't see why I cannot also make good progress as a layperson...so I don't intend to wait till I turn 52, when I might not even see out this day
in one piece...
...got to practice now
, no time to wait for ideal conditions!