Not to lower the tone of the discussion, but I'd be interested in some perspectives on this topic as it relates to sex within a relationship. Does the average Theravadin lay practitioner, married or in a long-term relationship, aspire to minimizing or eliminating sex? Or are efforts focused more on avoiding misconduct (adultery, etc)?
I'm aware that celibacy isn't required of laypeople. Still, many teachings and meditative practices are designed to introduce disenchantment with physical form, as part of a systematic program of eliminating desire. This can be very helpful in containing one's free-floating lust, but what about the potential impact within a marriage? Practically speaking, I'm not sure how one can meditate on the filth and degradation of the body and then jump happily into the sack with the missus or hubby.
It seems to me that devoted contemplation of the drawbacks of sensual pleasures and the rewards of renunciation could lead to arguments with one's partner -- unless, of course, that person is also a Theravadin with similar goals.
How does a non-celibate Theravadin practitioner handle this apparent conflict of interest?
I posted a similar question on E-sangha awhile back (), but the responses were mostly from non-Theravadins -- thanks Fede, though, for your comment!. Again, don't mean to sound like a hormonal school kid, but it is a question that continues to bug me.
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