I find that what works for me is to reflect whether or not my post is coming from one of the Brahma-Viharas, and if it's not then I either rewrite it or I find it's not worth posting, unless I feel there's an important question to ask. While I am sometimes disappointed with some of the member's disregard for others feelings, I must say that this is a great forum overall, and I appreciate everyone's efforts to make it a friendly, compassionate, environment.
May you all be well, happy, and peaceful!
"The heart of the path is quite easy. There’s no need to explain anything at length. Let go of love and hate and let things be. That’s all that I do in my own practice." - Ajahn Chah