Could you all spare a thought.....

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Could you all spare a thought.....

Postby Fede » Sun Apr 26, 2009 9:17 am

Dear friends,
I would request that, whatever your practise, and however you do it, that you keep my elderly father in your thoughts.
He is 88.

He has had cancer of the bladder.
He broke his back 4 years ago.
He has an enlarged prostate.
He has osteoporosis.
he has great difficulty walking.
He was on a special diet to relieve the work of his kidneys, due to this cancer.
Now, he is passing blood copiously, with his motions.
So they have changed his diet, yet again....
he has lost a great deal of weight, and is very weak.

They will be conducting further tests at the beginning of May to try to diagnose and establish the precise cause of this bleeding
He is on much medication.

I don't know whether this means he will get better, or he will die.
I am aware of dying being a possibility.
This is what happens to us all.
so I do not necessarily request that you pray for his continued life.

I ask that you consider his discomfort and distress.
And I ask you also to consider my mother (11 years his junior, but now his carer) and that she have the energy and stamina to be able to cope and be comforted.
Life ends.
This I know.
So maybe this is then beginning of the end for him; who can tell.....?
but I wish him relief and serenity. And I wish my mother fortitude and courage.
That's all I ask of you, to join me in this prayer.
"Samsara: The human condition's heartbreaking inability to sustain contentment." Elizabeth Gilbert, 'Eat, Pray, Love'.

Simplify: 17 into 1 WILL go: Mindfulness!

Quieta movere magna merces videbatur. (Sallust, c.86-c.35 BC)
Translation: Just to stir things up seemed a good reward in itself. ;)

I am sooooo happy - How on earth could I be otherwise?! :D


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Re: Could you all spare a thought.....

Postby cooran » Sun Apr 26, 2009 9:30 am

Hello Fede, :group:

May your father be safe and protected,
May he be happy of heart and mind,
May he live with ease and wellbeing.

May both your mother and father become free from mental and physical pain,
May they have happiness and the conditions for happiness.

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Re: Could you all spare a thought.....

Postby zavk » Sun Apr 26, 2009 9:48 am

Metta to you and your family.
With metta,
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Re: Could you all spare a thought.....

Postby genkaku » Sun Apr 26, 2009 10:14 am

May your father
And all who love him
Be at peace.

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Re: Could you all spare a thought.....

Postby floating_abu » Sun Apr 26, 2009 10:59 am

Peace.
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Re: Could you all spare a thought.....

Postby retrofuturist » Sun Apr 26, 2009 11:10 am

Greetings Fede,

May there be as little suffering as possible.

:anjali:

A useful sutta for you from the Buddha... I found it very useful when my beloved grandfather was gravely ill a couple of years ago.

Sn 3.8: Salla Sutta (The Arrow)
http://www.accesstoinsight.org/tipitaka ... .irel.html

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Retro. :)
If you have asked me of the origination of unease, then I shall explain it to you in accordance with my understanding:
Whatever various forms of unease there are in the world, They originate founded in encumbering accumulation. (Pārāyanavagga)


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One who is such, calmed and ever mindful, He has no sorrows! -- Udana IV, 7


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Re: Could you all spare a thought.....

Postby appicchato » Sun Apr 26, 2009 11:31 am

floating_abu wrote:Peace.


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Re: Could you all spare a thought.....

Postby thornbush » Sun Apr 26, 2009 12:43 pm

An aspiration to the Triple Gem for Fede's parents.
(Adapted from The Paritta Chanting)
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Homage to the Blessed One, the Consummate One, the Supremely Enlightened One!

By the protective power of all the Buddhas, May healing, recovery and strength ever be theirs.
By the protective power of all the Dhamma, May healing, recovery and strength ever be theirs.
By the protective power of all the Sangha, May healing, recovery and strength ever be theirs.

By the power of the Buddha, May the ailments be rendered naught.
By the power of the Dhamma, May the ailments be rendered naught.
By the power of the Sangha, May the ailments be rendered naught.

May they be free from suffering.
May they be free from fear.
May they be free from grief.

By the assertion of this aspiration, May they ever be well.
By the assertion of this aspiration, May they be free from illness.
By the assertion of this aspiration, May all blessings be upon them.
By the protective power of all Buddhas, Pacceka Buddhas and all Arahants,
May they be secured with this Protection in every way.

Sadhu! Sadhu! Sadhu!

Namo Amitabha Buddha!
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Re: Could you all spare a thought.....

Postby Fede » Sun Apr 26, 2009 12:53 pm

Thank you all for your kind words....
Retro, wonderful reference.
Great to read, and yes, most comforting.

My Buddhist practice is extremely sustaining, and of great solace.
as Bikkhu Samahita says, Friendship is the greatest!

I hope my mother's own Catholic practice does the same for her.

Thank you all....
:namaste:

Edit note:

I will keep you updated on progress.... :heart:
Last edited by Fede on Sun Apr 26, 2009 3:20 pm, edited 1 time in total.
"Samsara: The human condition's heartbreaking inability to sustain contentment." Elizabeth Gilbert, 'Eat, Pray, Love'.

Simplify: 17 into 1 WILL go: Mindfulness!

Quieta movere magna merces videbatur. (Sallust, c.86-c.35 BC)
Translation: Just to stir things up seemed a good reward in itself. ;)

I am sooooo happy - How on earth could I be otherwise?! :D


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Re: Could you all spare a thought.....

Postby Journey » Sun Apr 26, 2009 2:16 pm

May your father be well, safe and at ease.
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Re: Could you all spare a thought.....

Postby Tex » Sun Apr 26, 2009 3:34 pm

May all who suffer, and all who love them, be at ease.

Best wishes to you and your family, Fede. Hang in there.
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Re: Could you all spare a thought.....

Postby Ngawang Drolma. » Sun Apr 26, 2009 3:53 pm

Fede, I will think of both of you in my prayers /\
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Re: Could you all spare a thought.....

Postby clw_uk » Sun Apr 26, 2009 4:18 pm

I hope things improve

Metta to you and your family
“ Your mind is likewise blocked. But the right road awaits you still. Cast out your doubts, your fears and your desires, let go of grief and of hope as well, for where these rule , then the mind is their subject." Boetius
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Re: Could you all spare a thought.....

Postby pink_trike » Sun Apr 26, 2009 5:15 pm

I hope that your father, mother, and you all find peace and strength no matter what arises. :anjali:
Vision is Mind
Mind is Empty
Emptiness is Clear Light
Clear Light is Union
Union is Great Bliss

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Re: Could you all spare a thought.....

Postby Ben » Sun Apr 26, 2009 10:08 pm

Hi Fede

You and your family are in my thoughts.
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Re: Could you all spare a thought.....

Postby Rui Sousa » Sun Apr 26, 2009 11:02 pm

Fede,

Peace and love to all your family.

:hug:
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Re: Could you all spare a thought.....

Postby salmon » Mon Apr 27, 2009 5:16 am

May your family find strength in times of hardship. May your father find peace with his sufferings.

Don't forget to constantly remind your father of his faith. At times of pain is when faith is sometimes the only painkiller.
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Re: Could you all spare a thought.....

Postby Fede » Mon Apr 27, 2009 7:28 pm

I thought that as you had all been so supportive and generous with your prayers and good wishes, I would provide an update...
I spoke to my mother this morning (Monday 27th April) and I asked her how things were:

Bleeding has stopped although motions are still loose.
he seems more attentive and 'Chipper' in the mornings, but towards the afternoon/evening, he 'deflates' and becomes withdrawn...

I asked her if anyone had prescribed something for anaemia.... she said no, but added that a medically -connected friend (She's a professor of dermatological diseases) had also commented that with such a high loss of blood this should have been a first priority.
I then suggested she obtain a prescription for 5mg Folic acid, as pharmaceutical iron causes constipation.

She immediately agreed,and then thought it would be a good idea if she took them as well....
Mother is the one who passed on the Thalassaemia to me.... bless.... she's such a generous giving person...!

So things look a little calmer and less frantic....

Thank you all once again for your thoughts, good wishes and prayers.
They mean so much to me....

XX :namaste:
"Samsara: The human condition's heartbreaking inability to sustain contentment." Elizabeth Gilbert, 'Eat, Pray, Love'.

Simplify: 17 into 1 WILL go: Mindfulness!

Quieta movere magna merces videbatur. (Sallust, c.86-c.35 BC)
Translation: Just to stir things up seemed a good reward in itself. ;)

I am sooooo happy - How on earth could I be otherwise?! :D


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Re: Could you all spare a thought.....

Postby retrofuturist » Tue Apr 28, 2009 4:43 am

Greetings Fede,

Thanks for the update - good to hear that it's good news.

Metta,
Retro. :)
If you have asked me of the origination of unease, then I shall explain it to you in accordance with my understanding:
Whatever various forms of unease there are in the world, They originate founded in encumbering accumulation. (Pārāyanavagga)


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One who is such, calmed and ever mindful, He has no sorrows! -- Udana IV, 7


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Re: Could you all spare a thought.....

Postby christopher::: » Tue Apr 28, 2009 6:09 am

Wishing that you and your parents will find strength, love and peace in this experience, Fede. As my grandparents got older it was hard but we learned a lot and all grew closer together...

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